So I have these to friends that I known for a while,well one I've known her for ever,we grew up together and lived next door to each other for so many years,lets call her MS,the other friend I've known her since 9th grade,lets call her VA.
This all happened over a post on fb,on mother's day,well the date for the one in Mexico,my husband posted something nice and sweet about his aunt who had past way and was dedicating the post to her,he can't write or read well in spanish and so he used the google translation and so he just posted it the way he saw it on there,which wasn't all correct,but at least he tried right? Well my friend MS commented on there and said,que dijiste? So my husband replied with can't you read spanish,so she said yes I can,but that doesn't even sound right,so he said I used google translation and thats how I posted it,MS said well google translation sucks and doesn't work,you should of ask someone in your house to help you type it right,there are people there who speak spanish and I can read and wirte spanish the correct way,my husband told her that he use google because he can't write in spanish well and that his first language is english and he was posting that because his aunt passed way and wanted to dedicated to her. He told her I would have replied back to you in spanish but you might not understand it,so MS got mad and told him that she can speak it way better than the majority of the chicanos and you. I got on there and just said to MS that sometimes we should just not say anything,but she thinks I was blaming her for the whole thing and I wasn't,I hardly said anything on there because I didn't want to make it a big deal on fb,MS told him that he could of ask his Mexican parents or wife to check it before he posted it,but he couldn't of done that because he was at work on his break when he posted it,but yet she didn't understand that. VA commented on there too and said that MS was just playing around,but yet she didn't say that at the beginnging she waited a while to say that,I commented again by saying that the discusion need to stop alreay because I'm the one who's gonna be in the middle of it,which I am. VA said to me how can you say that we've been friends for how long now. I got on there and just told them to stop,but I wans't gonna argue with anyone on there and said what I told my husband,yeah,google doesn't all ways tell you the correct way and you sometimes have to go back and fix somethings,but hey you tired,but it didn't have to go this far. Now my husband doesn't want to be around my friend MS because of the argument,and MS thinks I'm stupid for not saying to him on fb that he was wrong,but I talked to her and told her I did tell him that just not on there,I told her at least he tired,but to her it was wrong and also she thinks all this agrument was my husbands fault,because he posted something that didn't sound right. She says nothing is her fault and that she was right. I don't know what to do for all this just to go away,I don't like that we can't all hang out like we use too,just because of a something posted on fb.
Quoting dmgfw:Yeah,she wont apologize and she still thinks she was right and she always will think that,that's how she is.
First of all if your friend MS wanted to understand correctly she could just asked that, but for her and go ahead and said you made a mistake and your spanish is not good was way out of line, a lot of my friends make spelling mistakes on fb but i'm not the spelling police to go correcting them or making them feel bad because they can't spell....what she did was insulting to your husband and the worst part is that they made it bigger and bigger on fb for everybody to see. I am sorry but I do agree with your husband, if he doesn't want to see your friend MS or VA he has all the right to.
Sorry you and your husband went through that! As a chicana who was adopted and not raised in my birth family's Spanish speaking household...I struggle with Spanish. I use google or babelfish sometimes. The fact that we TRY should be enough! Kudos to your husband for trying and kudos to you for standing up for him AND for helping correct him in private!
accidently left group
- dmgfw
on Apr. 20, 2012 at 4:52 PM