We are going into three keywords that play well together:
3. "Window shopping"
Okay, then the first is about communicating your feelings, your needs, explaining how you want to be wanted...once the air is cleared up, for couples that have many years together a bit of creativity during sex is not bad, for example: try new positions, sexy clothes, maybe a game....and this is why you need to communicate, you just don't want to surprise or scare your husband with your new dominatrix outfit (whip included) LOL, God knows my husband would love that but then again we are pervs LOL
And the extra would be some "window shopping", browse through a sex store online or visit one together, inform yourself about the different things you can get or just make a mental note if your hubby seems to like something.