so we moved in with them, his dad was sick with something i cant spell but ill try- pulminary fibrosis, so he was not working. his brother was holding down the apt all he bills ect and not to happy abt it (he doesnt really get along with his parents which is why they depend on my husband so much, hes their 'good son') so when we moved there my husband and his bro began to split all the bills 50/50, except food we bought all the food for everyone.
so then his dad went back to colombia bcuz he has a health insurance there. his wife chose to stay here in case he died she would not be alone there with out my husband and the kids (my BIL does have a son there but they have not seen him in years, they talk on the phone occasionaly) so now its my MIL, BIL, husband my 6 month old i had in ohio, and my 1st born who was now 2 and me living in a small 2 bedroom apt. my BIL was sleeping on the couch and my family sleeping in the smaller 2nd bedroom and my MIL sleeping in the master with the bathroom. so my BIL couldnt catch any good jobs and my husband was paying everything (1300 rent, 200 electric bcuz they kept the ac on alll day really cold, all the food, 300 for a storage with our stuff) my MIL still refused to watch the kids for me even when i would go to the laundrymat with 2 little kids and she would even ask me to bring her stuff there to wash, she stopped cleaning the floor, kitchen after she cooked (she cooked the meals for her and bil and i cooked for my fam bcuz we eat a lil diffrent then bil who is super picky) bathroom, balcony, everything and expected me to do it saying she was not a slave, when i dont believe she was ever treated as one.
then we all started fighting and my husband basically took her side, so then i was like ok so im supposed to be the 'slave' here? it should be even like i clean the floor 1 day her the next same with the bathroom and everyone should clean the kitchen when they are done eating/cooking. but it never happened like that. so the next yr was just fighting between my husband and me and between her and ,y husband. i was also preg somewhere in the middle of this bcuz we finally moved out not even a month before he was born. so i revolted after a while and stoppped to clean the floor to see how long it would take her to do it, she never did. so i gave up and did it all the time same with all the cleaning. and the fighting continued bc anytime i would try to talk to hubby abt it he would get SOOOOOO defensive of his mom like shes alone and bla blabla.
so my FIL got a surgery there in colombia and i thought MIL would go to be with him but she decided to stay here, basically seperating from him without really saying it. and she really thought she was going to move in with us when we got our house, but i said no. bcuz she never wants to help me with the kids not even one time adn she wants to be treated like a princess adn ask my husband to take her to the salon and PAY when we dont have money for me to do it!!!! when i confront him about that he said well she is colombian and they need to go to the salon its just the way the woman are there, i was like are u kidding me! i have 2 kids preg i wanna go and have a day to get my nails done too, and bc im AMERICAN i dont need it?????? so anyway she found a lady in her church to move in with and my husband and me went to therapy bc i thought we were gonna end seperated if he didnt open his eyes to that he was helping him mom more then me and the kids.
she was getting money every month from her husnad and i knew when she got her 400bucks bc she was at the mall the next couple days and never got anything for the kids or asked my husband did he need help to pay a bill or anything (he was paying her phone and all her calling card too) so i got pissed and flipped out one day called her a selfish bitch and told her enough was enough never ask us for help again bc she proved she doesnt care abt us and then i became the worst person ever......
so we got our house and she did not move with us but a lady she knows, its been 1 year in aug that we have not been living there and now her friend got married and is moving out so she is divoricing her husband after 2 yrs apart and he sold their apt there in colombia and gave her 25,000. she doesnt want to spend any of it tho and wants my husband to help her with all her moving stuff, including putting his name on everything since she doesnt have papers. she has been watching an elderly lady on the wkends for $ but now she is going to be living alone and miami is not cheap so i dont kno what shes going to do.
so her an my husband got in a fight bc she only calls him to BITCH about how fcked up is her life, he husband 'left her' when really she ;left him, she cant live with juan bc of me, she has no car no papers. an hes like well i have problems too and u never even ask me about my 3 children or abt me you only btch abt your life. (BTW, since we moved here last aug she has only seen the kids a handful of times on her choice bc i have offered to drive them to see her but she sais shes 'busy'.) but then he wants to fight with me saying i dont understand how fcked up it is for her since she cant drive or get her papers and im like i get it, but its her choice, now she needs to live with it. ****is that mean of me*** bc he sais im being cold toward her bc of everything weve been thru and i want her to fail. thats not true, i just dont want her stressing him out with her problems she brought on herself, which that stress trickles down to the kidsa nd me.
im scared this lady is gonna cause drama 4ever, what is she gonna do when her 25000 is gone???
and what hurt me the most is she talked alota crap abt me to their family and friends in colombia so now everyone there has the wrong idea abt me, and im almost like ashamed/embarrased to go there now wondering what have they heard abt me? im sure alota exagirated (sp?) stuff. when before i was so excited to go bc im really into colombian culture. we eat colombian food, i try to speak spanish with the kids, ect.
i need serious help with my mil....