My DD has been dating her boyfriend for six months. This is her first boyfriend and and my daughter is his third girlfriend. She has told me that she does not think his mother likes her. I ask her why she feels this way and she tells me that she is always ignoring her when she goes over to his house. I told her that she might not be very social. Maybe wants to give them time together and not be in the middle of their conversations.
Yesterday she went over to his house and she said his mother was rude to her. She kept talking about his ex girlfriend. Calling her by her name and telling her that she looked like her. She started talking about his graduation party and who he was going to invite. His mother tells him to make sure to invite his ex and to make sure she attends. He tells his mother that the date had to change cause my daughter could not make it on that day. She asked him if his ex be able to make it and that's what matters. I could not believe this, my daughter is 18 and to have an adult embarrass her like this. And her boyfriend never told his mother to be quiet. He comes to my home and I treat him with respect and have him over for dinner at times.
I told my daughter that in graduation she better not introduce me to her. I really want to give her a piece of my mind. This really makes me mad and told her not to go over again. I also told my daughter to talk to her boyfriend and let him know that she did not appreciate how she was treated by his mother.
Quoting Eiansmommy17:
Oh my goodness! That is terrible... I know how it feels to be on the wrong side of in-laws. My DH's family were civil to me when we were dating. We got married after we were together for 3 years and his father didn't even come to our wedding. After that point things changed, I guess his dad just feels like he can say whatever he wants to me (usually alcohol induced, in my opinion that isn't a good excuse). Now that our DS/their first grandchild is here they are back to being civil. I think to avoid us disappearing. All I can say is encourage her to stand up for herself, and she'll be OK. That's what my mom did for me. I really hope it gets better for her. :)
I told her she should of ask him to bring her home. She does need to tell her to treat her with respect if she expects the same.
That's rude as hell. I would want to give this lady a piece of my mind as well. Her boyfriend should've defended her. It's just rude to talk about an ex in front of the new girlfriend or boyfriend. I think this lady just wants to put a wedge between them.
What. A. Bitch.
That sucks!! I'm not saying your daughter is going to marry this guy but him not saying anything to his mom shows a lot of what could happen having a future MIL like her....she needs to talk to him and make things clear. That was very disrespectful of her to treat your daughter like that, as a mom you want to say something or even punch the bitch on the face but I'd say be the better person here at the end is your daughter's battle and the only thing you can do for her is to give support and an ear to listen.
so stressed
- twobells
on May. 30, 2012 at 10:00 PM