Grades and Gifts

[HotMamaKady]

Do you reward your kid(s) for good grades? Natty brought home all 4's (equivalent to A+). I'm super proud of her but I don't know if I should buy her something. Good grades are a REQUIREMENT, not an option to me and she knows that. I don't want her to think good grades mean new stuff, but I do want her to know how proud I am. Any advice

[twobells]

There is nothing wrong with a little reward to show her you are proud of her. If you do not want it to be so much of a money thing get her a little card with a little extra thing. Maybe an extra hour watching tv. Or keep it educational with a new book. I always took my kids out for ice cream.

[kgmmw]

I agree

Quoting twobells:

There is nothing wrong with a little reward to show her you are proud of her. If you do not want it to be so much of a money thing get her a little card with a little extra thing. Maybe an extra hour watching tv. Or keep it educational with a new book. I always took my kids out for ice cream.

[karladiego]

I would say instead of celebrating the grades only, celebrate her for doing good all year by taking her out on a mommy-daughter outing to eat or have ice cream. Not like my ex's brother who would buy very expensive gifts for every A his kids got, so the kids will only study for tests and do poorly the rest of the time...like I said, it's good to let them know we are proud of them but not going overboard.

[Reina13]

I think a mommy and me day to show her how proud of her you are is a nice little gift. It doenst have to be an expensive day. It could be something as simple as going to the park and then out for an ice cream after. Or if you dont eat out often, take her someone fun to eat. I would not pay her for her grades or make her reward to extravagant. But a little appreciation and show of  pride is fine.

[NADIA-R]

My kids know they have to have good grades but if they bring me very good grades at the end of the year. They can get a price. They do try harder once they know that my 10 year old DD tried all year she got student of the month 3 times and even became school treasurer. She did very good so she will be getting a new Wii game.

[JeannetteG]

If good grades are a requirement in your home. You should just take her out on an outting or let her pick out something at Target. It's both cost effective and something she can feel that she worked for.

[sophiesmom07]

Hi, welcome!

What  about a nice day out, like dinner at her favorite place. I think it's better than an actual gift. She'll know you're proud and will get to spend time with you. I think it sends a better message.  

[momma_814]

I agree a nice dinner with you sounds great. That way you'll have plenty of time to talk about how proud you are of her.

[aidenmomplus4]

I agree with this, you shoul give her positive reinforcement whenever she achieved something that is good and reward her with  a nice day out this way she understand that you are proud of her and this is your way of showing it to her rather then purchasing something for her which will just form a link that means good grades = gifts. And congrats on having such a wonderfully smart child that is obviously a reflecting on how you raise her.

Quoting karladiego:

I would say instead of celebrating the grades only, celebrate her for doing good all year by taking her out on a mommy-daughter outing to eat or have ice cream. Not like my ex's brother who would buy very expensive gifts for every A his kids got, so the kids will only study for tests and do poorly the rest of the time...like I said, it's good to let them know we are proud of them but not going overboard.