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Before I Had Kids, I Swore I Would Never...

Posted by on Jun. 25, 2012 at 9:36 AM
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Before I Had Kids I Swore I Would Never ....

Posted by Michele Zipp

kid watching tvI read somewhere once that we are all the best parents in the world ... before we have kids. All the things we said we would never, ever do when we became parents were said with such ease as if parenting was a simple thing. Oh what little we knew then! Once you become a parent, your eyes are opened wide ... with a can opener and sometimes it even feels like they are popping out of your head. Things you said you would never do are sometimes done. And that's because never is just a bad, bad word in this case.

Still, even the parents who do the things on that mythical "never do" list can be the best parents in the world. Oh yes we can! We do what we have to do, we make things work how they should work for our family, and that's the reality. Before I had kids I swore I would never do a lot of things. Here's my confessional. Maybe you can relate.

I swore I would never ...

... let them watch TV or be kids who requested different shows. They watch it. They love it. They ask for Peppa and Diego and Elmo. They don't watch it all the time. But they watch.

... feed them anything that was frozen like chicken nuggets or fish sticks or mini pizzas. Sometimes convenience wins.

... let them be the boss of me. Sometimes they are. And I think that's okay. Not to the point where it's out of control, but there are times where I cave and let them have their way ... within reason.

... buy them the ridiculous toy they don't need but decide they have to have in the store.

... use bribery to get them to do something.

... put my child on a leash. I tried it twice. It wasn't for us, but I understand how it works to keep kids safe.

... let my kids act like THAT ... when seeing a child have a meltdown. Of course this was before I had kids and was enlightened to the fact that THAT just happens sometimes.

... co-sleep. Now I love snuggling with my babies.

... wear flats. I'm a heels wearing girl. But I just can't do it all the time at the playground. Most of the time I'm in sensible wedges, but I do own some flats much to the horror of my former self.

... change. For some reason I thought change was bad. I know now that's it's not. I've changed in some of the most amazing ways possible and I owe a lot of it to motherhood.

Any of these sound familiar?

What things did you swear you would never do?

Posted by on Jun. 25, 2012 at 9:36 AM
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ZachysMama08
by Silver Member on Jun. 25, 2012 at 10:11 AM
Lol this is all so true! I agree
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Reina13
by Member on Jun. 25, 2012 at 11:10 AM

I swore I would never raise my voice.....I have done that.

I swore I would never feed them fast food.....I have done that.

I swore I would never let them run around barefoot outside....I have done that too.

aidenmomplus4
by Member on Jun. 25, 2012 at 11:55 AM

I swore I would never use a "leash" on my child but once we had 5 kids under 3 that were  all waking we had to give in, there out number us and would all go different ways. lol 

LMJ1
by Lluvia-Mexicana on Jun. 25, 2012 at 3:20 PM

I swore I'd never feed her fast food---did it, just not long ago for the first time.

I swore I wouldn't give her candy---I gave her her first candy at 22 months when I finally had her facing forward on the carseat.

I swore she wouldn't watch that much TV---After she turned two, I sat her infront of the TV, so I could get stuff done around the house. 

I swore I would never take my child to the movies while she's little---about a month ago, I wanted to watch The Hunger Games so bad taht i went to the first showing, hoping no one would be there.  She ended up making so much noise, we got kicked out of the theater. 

kgmmw
by Kimberly-US/Mex on Jun. 25, 2012 at 3:38 PM

Co-sleep and I did

Use Bribery---but now not as much 

karladiego
by Karla on Jun. 25, 2012 at 6:35 PM

Soooo true lol

NADIA-R
by NADIA on Jun. 25, 2012 at 7:34 PM
I've done it too
I swore I never force them to wear something they didn't like and I did.
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ana326
by Ana-Mexicana on Jun. 25, 2012 at 8:12 PM
True

True

True

True

That I definitely do

Yep

True
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JeannetteG
by Jeannette-AZ/Mex on Jun. 26, 2012 at 4:15 AM

Co-Sleep with my youngest.

sophiesmom07
by on Jun. 26, 2012 at 2:19 PM

Give them things like chicken nuggets and canned ravioli, but I do. tsk tsk

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