I have a girlfriend from JR High that I use to hang out with in my early 20's (i will be 34 this august) we had lost touch for several years almost 8 years actually. When we use to hang out I loved to party and drink and the norm I guess, I was single and had no responsibilities. We lost touch just a way of life really, fast forward years later I'm a mom of two and married almost 12 years.
When I became a mother I changed as most moms do I assume. The craziest I get now is happy hour after work every now and then or movie night and drinks at home :) First things she asks after we reconnect is if I still party like I use to and Im like no Im in my 30's and I've lived that time of my life, Im passed it you know? And she proceeds to tell me how crazy I was and how much fun she had, thats all good and dandy but I'm thinking you want to talk abt the present? I know I sound harsh but I dont miss my pass so bad that I have to re live it to the fullest. I would love to know whats been going on since and how ur kids are and such. But she just wants to talk about how she wishes we lived in the same city bcs she really needs a friend to party, yada yada yada.
Months later she proceeds to ask me abt some pics my hubby puts on FB and how if that was her man she would kick his ass and this and that..the pics are of girls in bathing suits and he will add a caption that says "happy whatever day it is". Im sure a lot of women wouldnt be ok with this but it doesnt bother me. I got annoyed and replied that it doesnt bother me so im not really sure why it bothers HER? She replies with just joking girl. Im thinking to myself first of all no one should ever meddle in someone elses realtionships especially when advice was not requested and certainly not when you dont dont have a good experience from to do so, I let it go as "joke" but it still bothered me.
So today she messages me that she founds this guy on FB the she used to crush on in JR High and Im like really ur still thinking abt him to the point that you have been looking for him? Her message itself reminded me of JR High with all the explanation marks and the omg's she placed in the title. Im not sure what reponse she expected from me but I was very neutral abt it hoping she would let it go bcs I honestly dont feel like having a conversation about a guy I havent thought about since the last time we spoke 8 years ago bcs she would bring him up. Im wondering is she really stuck on our old life that she cant move forward? I just dont get it, she doesnt act like someone who has moved forward or am I reading to much into this? Does anyone else have friends like this how do you handle the relationship?