Silly question but wwyd? (Sorry it's long,but how should I deal with this tactfully?)
There are ten families living in our neighbor hood and out of the ten of us only one family has girls (2). Everybody else has little boys ranging from 7 to 18.
Since I have 3 boys and because my hubby insists they have every outdoor "toy"(scooters,bikes,skateboards...etc) out there my house is always full of boys. About a week ago, Steven (neighbor's son) starts to "pretend" wrestle with one of the other boys (not my son) and they hurt each other. Well,Steven goes running off to complain to his mother while I fuss at the boys in my back yard.They have been told time and again that play fighting of any kind is NOT allowed at my house and if they can't follow the rules they need to go home.
Becky (Steven's mom) comes marching over to my house and proceeds to verbally abuse (really rude negative comments. Not cussing,just spiteful) these kids because Steven told her that they were beating him up. She didn't even ask if there was a diff version to the story.It was just her bad luck that she didn't see me standing there while she was yelling at everybody else's kids...Steven can do no wrong. I stepped into her line of sight and told her to stop being so degrading to the boys. She just kept right on yelling and telling me that the entire thing was Brian's fault (This is what Steven told her). None of it could have been Brian's fault,he wasn't even outside! I was giving him a breathing treatment while it was happening!
Becky gets pissy.Tells me that Steven will not be allowed to play with my kids anymore. Ummm,ok? The only thing that that will acomplish is that Steven has no one to play with.All the other kids in the neighborhood are usually at my house.
Yesterday morning,Becky's hubby comes over to apologize for her and to swear it won't happen again. Later on in the afternoon Brian comes to the house in tears because Becky told him to stay away from her son and that he was too old to play with Steven and the other boys!! (Brian is 11,Steven is 9).Bryce and the other boys came to my house to play on the trampoline,and Steven proceeded to fuss at Brian, "Mom said I can't play with you,so you go back in.I don't want to have go home right now! * sigh* I told Steven to go home;I am not going to keep Brian locked in the house just so Steven has someone to play with!! ( I feel mean.Steven won't have anyone to play with because these kids are always at my house and I WILL NOT punish Brian because Becky is being a witch) Anybody ever have something like this happen to them? Should I talk to her or just keep her away from my kids?Help
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