Scheduling Sex May Sound Unsexy but There’s a Way to Make It Hot
Scheduling sex
isn't as unheard of as it once was. I bet, like, 5,000 years ago, the
concept of making time to make love was absurd (didn't the Greeks just
sit around and bone one another all day long?) but times have changed.
Husbands and wives are working, they're getting drinks with friends,
they're doing something about Fantasy Football, they're figuring out
that Quickbooks thing finally, they're doing all sorts of things. Things they've scheduled. Things they made a point to accomplish.
That's why scheduling sex shouldn't sound that crazy -- you schedule every other thing in your life, so why not add this to the list? It's logical, and I like that. But there's something else couples can schedule that's a little less, uh, scheduled. Here's what I mean.
Instead of sitting down with your spouse and circling the calendar dates in which you are supposed to "do it", why don't you sit down by yourself and schedule a time to be available at home. Once you've made a plan to be plan-free, you're then ready to initiate or receive a sexy spark or two, regardless if it was a "sex night" or not.
Planning a time to be unscheduled and at home can be just as
effectual as penciling in times to do the deed. It brings the
spontaneity back, which is nice, since you've kind of lost that with the
whole appointing-specific-evenings-for-love-making thing. It also brings back the element of surprise
-- your partner doesn't think it's a sex night, but BAM, he pulls into
the driveway and there you are, breasts bound in bubble-wrap holding a
pan of sizzling bacon, ready to get things on. Surprise, indeed.
Setting up a time to have the intercourse is certainly a great way to make sure your relationship stays strong and healthy, but also consider giving yourself a free night at home so that things can happen organically, even if you've kind of planned it out.
Do you believe in scheduling sex?
Yes and no, sometimes we talk about it in advance. But most of the time since we have 3 kids and a kid that we just can't get out of our bed, so we end up doing it whenever we get a free moment.
More than scheduling we do discuss the opportunities...if I text him today I want to have a hot night then we can always get together in the shower if my kid or Skids are still up and about. But we do schedule it for the weekends that I know my son it at his dad's or we know my SDs are going to be here either. Scheduling sex is also like planning date night.
We had to this for a while LOL. Some people think it takes some of the romance out of it or the surprise but no with time you get creative and then you know all day that your going to make the magic happen so that adds to the appeal.
We had to do it since we were just so busy. I started looking at which were my least busy days at work during the week. and his and worked with that.
oh i know how that goes that sheduling special momment is not easy
I dislike scheduling but sometimes it has to get done to have that private time cuase kids really do take over lol
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- kgmmw
on Sep. 19, 2012 at 8:38 AM