Dr. vs Dr. vs ME....what do YOU think?

[Halensmommy]

so when i had my miscarriage (7/26) the dr on call, who was amazing by the way, told me that since MC was very early (7wks) and natural that we could start trying right away.  Well, that sat all the bleeding stopped and i was back to normal. SO DH and i did the "deed" about four days later. not really "trying" just getting back to our normal lives. and we did so every other day since then. Well this past week i went to see MY dr (equally as amazing, i love him!) and he told me i should wait 2 cycles before trying again. i basically said "oops, what if we already started trying? what is the harm that can be done?". He told me that my uterine wall may be too weak for implantation but if that is the case i wont even know i was pregnant, the baby will never implant. SO here is my question. We have already started trying again, i doubt we will get pregnant again this month, worse case scenario the baby doesnt stick and we never know that we even got pregnant. so what would you do? stop trying until you've had two periods? or just keep on with daily life and if it happens it happens?

[mrseckstein]

Hmm I don't know if there could be some negative effects because my doctor always told me I could try again right away. I never had to wait or anything like that. Perhaps they just want your body to go back to "normal" first? or something. Gosh I don't know. I'm not much help:( 

[bjw_053109]

Hmm i had m\c at 5 wks and was told to wait until my next regular period as in not the mc. So i only was supposed to wait one cycle. I would wait at least one cycle and try again. GL with whatever you decide.

[ritzbit]

 What's done is done, if it already happened.  The dr on-call told me to wait 3 cycles, but my dr told me we could start trying again when I went to my 4 week check-up.  So I went with his because I felt ready.  I didn't want to wait longer. 

[jewels2882]

I had my first one 6 months ago at 6 weeks pregnant. They told me to wait a 1 cycle. We waited and within 3 months I was pregnant again. I ended up losing the pregnancy at 11 weeks and 4 days (august 9, 2010) even though there was no sign of it happening again ( everything was going well had high hcg levels, saw the baby and heart beat at 6 weeks and saw the baby again and heart beat at 9 weeks). They told me this time to wait 2 cycles before trying again. My dr urged for me to use birth control cause you are more fertile after having a miscarriage. He said if I was to get pregnant within these 2 months that my risk of miscarrying would be even greater and chances are that if I was to become pregnant before the 2 cycles that the baby wouldn't make it past the first 12 weeks. I really want to try again but i think for me going thru this twice in the past 6 months I need to wait.

I know there have been women you have gotten pregnant right after miscarring and go on to have healthy babies. So I think it best to talk things over with your husband, and see how you both feel about it.

[Rachelle11503]

eh...I really dont see any harm. That and I have also heard from quite a few women who got pregnant right afterward and had sticky healthy babies :)

[behning20]

My doctor told me to wait three cylces, but I had a dnc so that might make a difference. But then it took another 4 months after that to get prego again. My friends doctor told her they didn't have to wait and they got pregnant within that first month. Both of us had healthy babies. So I really dont think it makes a difference, I would say keep trying while you are more fertile

[myltlbunch]

First there is a new article out that says that there is a higher chance of a successful pregnancy if you get pg in the first six mos after a miscarriage.  Now I will share my experience. I have had 4 miscarriages 3 first tri all in the 8th week and now this one in the second tri.  I got pg 4 1/2 wks after our first m/c  and carried our son to term.  I got pg about 2 1/2 mos after our second m/c and lost that pregnancy due to a trisomy issue so really nothing to do with my body not being ready.  I got pg 4 mos after that loss and carried our daughter to term.  In my general experience it has been fine to get pg and I have also read that if your body is not ready for it, you will not get pg.  Good luck and i would continue trying. I have no intention of waiting with this loss.  This has been a horrible ordeal and I just want to get through this and get a baby in our arms

[angeldescending]

My Dr. said her reccomendation was to wait 1 cycle, BUT said that she has not seen any evidence to support women who do get pregnant before the first cycle to have any increased risk of miscarriage. We didn't wait but I got AF anyways... Good luck whatever happens :o)

[echupko]

We tried for a year before we conceived in 2008 then lost the baby at 11weeks (naturally).  We only waited one cycle and got pregnant right away!  We now have a healthy 17.5month old son. 

Good luck!

[MommaBoop922]

I had a different experience b/c mine was induced and not natural but I have hear of tons of women waiting one cycle or starting right after they stop bleeding and the hormones are gone and they have had no issues... I always find just going on with daily life and seeing what happens works for people... You know your body and mind best so I think if you feel ready then you should be okay.. Good Luck!!