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Follow up with my reg dr today after d&e

Posted by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 2:24 PM
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Hi All, It's been a rough day today. I saw my reg ob/gyn today and the karotyping was back I didn't expect it so I really emotionally wasn't prepared for the news today, anyhow all came back as normal.  She was a healthy baby girl so we now have no reasons why we lost her.  It's such a mixed bag.  Good news is nothing was wrong with her so it likely wont happen again but well bad news is nothing was wrong with her so why did it happen?  I think were all leaning toward viral. when I told him about our son Jacob being sick with adenovirus and an unknown illness in the same time frame he agreed  that with everything coming back normal that it likely was viral.  So the plan now is clomid when my period comes, along with continuing the met, starting prometrium and adding baby aspirin in as an extra precautionary.  They are being very proactive in getting me pregnant again and then will monitor me very closely through the next pregnancy.  Not that we can truly prevent it but it will make me feel better and he was very good about telling me that right off.  So here we go again on this roller coaster ride.

Kim loving wife of Craig and mommy to Alex, Ben, Jacob, Avery, Andrew, Evan, Elliana, Isabella and our 4 angels in heaven.


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Cafe Jenn
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 2:45 PM

Oh the not knowing for sure is horrible.  Having somewhat of an idea makes it more bearable.  Having an awesome doctor is priceless.

Thank you for updating us on how your appointment went.  How are you doing now?

genabella
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 2:49 PM

My heart goes out to you.  Walking into a situation that's emotionally difficult without any warning is rough. It's hard enough dealing with your own feelings from one moment to the next but having info related to the mc brought to you unexpectedly... definitely hard.

I certainly understand what you mean when you say that the news was "good and bad"... I would feel the same way. It's so hard to shake that lingering "Why." It seems to never go away.. You want to know what might have caused it or would like to be able to say "this is what happened" so that there's something that you can prevent or work on.. But it's rarely that easy..

I will keep you, your dh, your little baby girl, and your beautiful garden of little ones in my heart, mind and prayers. Sending hugs your way... and wishing you all the best as you proceed from here..

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mrseckstein
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 3:07 PM

I'm so sorry sweetie:( I wish they knew what happened so at least you'd have something in the back of your mind. I'm praying for you guys and lots of baby dust your way!

Txmommy13
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 3:48 PM

It is really hard, i was felt the same way with my dr whom ive been seing since i was in middle school,couldnt offer any sort of help.I hated not knowing why i was miscarrying,but once i found a dr who was willing to listen and take me a little more seriously it was amazing.Im glad your dr is very proactive and helping you,thats great.

echupko
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 4:05 PM

 Oh I am so sorry you didnt get any answers.  I know exactly how you feel though.  When we lost our daughter at 16w we had to choose to have testing or bury her.  We chose testing b/c it was our second loss.  They found nothing wrong with her.  One part of you wants an answer soooo bad and the other is glad that nothing is wrong so that you can safely "try again".

Good luck to you with ttc again.

xoNIKKIox
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 4:20 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss--and that you didn't get any concrete definitive answers. I'll keep my fingers crossed that you get a BFP soon (hooray, for proactive docs!).

Rachelle11503
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 4:56 PM

I'm sorry for you loss. Sounds like you have a wonderful doctor! I know I wasn't prepared to hear the results when I went for my follow-up. I'm so glad they are going to work closely with you, its going to help you feel better. And here's lots of baby dust to you!
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myltlbunch
by on Aug. 31, 2010 at 9:54 PM

Thanks Everyone for all the support, its definitely appreciated and knowing that there are others that have gone through it and understand the pain is the best support ever.

@ Jenn I am doing ok, I have spent a lot of the day crying, it just makes me so sad to think I should be feeling kicks instead of missing her so much.  I have to call tomorrow for her ashes and another tough day ahead for sure so just bracing for it and trying to move on to the next step

Kim loving wife to Craig and mommy to Alex, Ben, Jacob, Avery, Andrew, Evan, Elliana, Isabella and 4 angels



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