Well i finally told the kids about our angel Gabby.I had been dreading it because i didnt know how they would react.I told my 4yr old dd first and she just said ok,and that was that.No questions, or anything further.Next i told my 6yr old,and she broke my heart,she got all excited and said "how did you know i always wanted another sister".I did explain how she was in heaven,becuase she died when she was in my tummy,and she just said thats ok,now i have 2 sisters! She was excited to know about her,and not at all sad.It was like she was getting another sibling,even one who isnt here with us.The only thing she was concerned about was that since she was a baby and in heaven who would take care of her? So i explained it to her,and now she is excited about having another sister,eventhough she does know she isnt getting a sisnter,like when Adayna came home,im not going to get big and then have a baby and bring her home.So it went better than i thought it would.Now im nervous about how our family will react,since they dont know we named our angel,and im not sure if they will understand our wanting our kids to know about her.
When I told my 5 year old it was not as hard as I thought he would be. He responded really well. Kids are very resiliant. (Hugs)
If this pregnancy goes alright my child will know that they have an angel baby brother or sister in heaven watching over them! To me it is only right bc keeping it away from them would be to hard and I wouldnt want to have to watch what I say as they grew up! U did the right thing! I really hope ur family is supportive but if not then u know deep in ur heart that u did what was best for u! That is all the matters!
Your 6 y.o.'s response brought a tear to my eye. How sweet. I'm glad it went well and I'm sure your family will be supportive. Good luck. *hugs*
I admire you. I haven't been able to tell my daughter yet. Its been 6 months. At first we didn't say anything because we lost our baby the day before we moved, and we moved 5 states away from her bio mom and her siblings. It was already such an emotional time for her, adapting to being away fromt eh home she knew and being away from a part of her family, we didn't want to burden her with a nother loss. Shes only 4 and it was just too much to put on her. She continued to act like we were having ababy, it bolstered my spirits to hear her talk of her "brother". Since then I know she realizes that there is no baby coming, shes a smart girl, now and then she makes remarks like, "my brother sure is taking a long time to get here." I want to tell her but I'm afraid now that if we get pregnant in teh next few months she won't be excited about it like before because she is so sensitive. Maybe once we are pregnant again I will find a way to explain things but for now we are just letting the status quo remain.
How are you today? May 28
- Txmommy13
on Oct. 14, 2010 at 5:59 PM