This is kind of a long story so please stay with me.
Me and my sister-in-law have never had a good realationship. She is pregnant with her 3rd "accidental" child. She announced her pregnancy, then a few months later i announced mine. She got really mad and jealous and said that i was "stealing her thunder." She facebook messaged me some really mean things....i am pretty sensitve so it hurt my feeling really bad. So a few weeks after the ugly fb messages i find out i am having a m/c. She texts me telling me how sorry she is and blah blah blah..... I don't believe a word that comes out of her mouth.
So my mother-in-law texts me today telling me that she is going to be induced next wednesday. I don't know what to do.....i don't want to go visit her and her new baby in the hospital and put on my fake smile and pretend i am happy for her. I am having a hard time being happy for any pregnant person, much less her!! I just don't think i have it in me to go see her. So what do ya'll think?? Should i be the bigger person and go see her?? I asked my husband if i had to go and he said that i don't have to but he really wants me too. He thinks it will cause problems if i don't go. Ugh, i am just so mad, sad and frustrated......
Thanks for reading my vent.....sorry it was so long.
I'm a mean person when someone is mean to me. So, do unto others as they have done on to you. If it were me, I would not go. DH would have to understand. Plus, everyone should be sensitive to your feelings and needs right now too. Yippee yah, she has a baby and you don't. They should understand! (Told ya I'm mean! LOL)
Also, hugs to you! Your time will come too!
You're definitely in a tough spot! My first instinct would be to go to avoid drama, but if there is one things I have learned through my m/c experience it is that I should do what I feel is right in my heart. I think you should talk with your DH some more about your feelings on this and see if there is any way he could support you not going if this is something you choose to do. Good luck!!
I do not like to cause drama....that is my sis-in-law's job :P
But i also just do not want to go more than anything. Ugh!!
Quoting Momy2beAUG.2009:
Umm, I personally would go just not to cause drama. But if you dont feel comfortable with it I wouldnt go. I understand how hard it would be though to go. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
Lol i love it!! I wish i had the guts to be mean.
Thanks for the hug:)
Quoting kimscorner:
I'm a mean person when someone is mean to me. So, do unto others as they have done on to you. If it were me, I would not go. DH would have to understand. Plus, everyone should be sensitive to your feelings and needs right now too. Yippee yah, she has a baby and you don't. They should understand! (Told ya I'm mean! LOL)
Also, hugs to you! Your time will come too!
Thanks so much for the hugs. I agree, she hasn't given a crap about anything that has happened to me so why should i go to the hospital and kiss her butt?!? Thanks:)
Quoting MomB79:
((HUGS)) ((HUGS)) and one more ((HUG)). I'm so sorry you're in that position. I think... don't go. She obviously hasn't been sensitive to your feelings and right now you just need to look out for YOUR feelings. Seeing the baby is sure to hurt and you don't need to be surrounded by her negativity while you're TTC. You need positive energy and support. I'm sure you'll make the right decision and find a way to keep the peace. Good luck. :-)
Never easy dealing with the in laws. I would be torn too and understand :o( I would request my husband to understand my feelings and be sympathetic to them when I told him I didn't want to go. I would have hoim make something up like your not feeling well if he doesnt want to explain the situation.
The Day My Heart Broke.
- desperatelyTTC
on Oct. 19, 2010 at 10:11 PM