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Does anyone find them self being jealous after...?

Posted by on Nov. 9, 2011 at 11:41 PM
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I had a miscarriage a couple months ago and I am finding myself to be a lttle jealous when I hear that someone is expecting a new child.  Did anyone else experience this?

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mommytobobby
by on Nov. 10, 2011 at 12:06 AM
I'm very jealous. I should be 25, almost 26 weeks pregnant right now :( I had my baby girl at 22 weeks. and it sucks to hear people finding out the sex of their baby, bc when I went in for mine at 21w5d, that's when we found out she had no heartbeat

I think I'll be jealous for awhile. hugs to you. it might be awhile before you get over those feelings
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busyizzybsmom
by Gold Member on Nov. 10, 2011 at 12:07 AM

Oh yes! Absolutely miserable. I used to look up our church bulletin online before Sunday so that I'd see the list of new moms-to-be to be praying for before we went to church because I was afraid of breaking down!

Mommy_to_b3
by on Nov. 10, 2011 at 12:12 AM
absolutley yes. I hate it. Even seeing someone pregnant is kinda like a low blow. Itll take a while. Healing time
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AF2011
by on Nov. 10, 2011 at 12:27 AM

I get very jealous still! Like i see all those new borns and i always say "oh i could have my baby in my arms right now" or when they get a little stomach. i was just invited to a baby shower for this saturday i dont know if i can get myself to go.maybe ill get her a gift and call it a day!

oooomelissaoooo
by on Nov. 10, 2011 at 12:48 AM

yes! infact bc i work at the airport i constantly see preg women and i totally get upset/jealous. this is on a daily basis too :(

natalie_82
by on Nov. 10, 2011 at 2:33 AM

 I am jealous in an odd kinda way.. I would give anything to hold my baby right now yet I am happy for my friends that I was pregnant with and I'm happy that they had healthy alive babies.... what they don't know is that I would be willing to pay them to just let me hold there baby... I lost my son a month ago at 34 weeks and my arms feel so empty

Johnsmom2011
by on Nov. 10, 2011 at 7:56 AM

I'm sad to say that I feel the same way. After the first miscarriage I wasn't so bad, but after the second, it got to the point that I know longer wanted to keep in touch with many of my friends that just keep having more babies with no issues. I never thought I would feel this way, and I really am happy for them, just wish it would happen for me too.

newmom2be08
by on Nov. 10, 2011 at 10:14 AM

Oh, yeah!  My SIL was 5 months pregnant when we had our first loss.  Talk about the green-eyed monster.  I am at peace with everything now though, but it took me awhile to get there.  HUGS and I'm sorry for your loss. :( 

tarakay0417
by on Nov. 10, 2011 at 11:25 AM

 I do. Right after I MC I found myself extremely jealous and upset when I saw a pregnant woman. My sister was pregnant (she just had her little girl) and I thought I would be fine when she came for a visit with her family. I MC a week before she got here and when I saw her, the jealously just got worse. I was happy for her, but it still hurt. When she had her little girl 2 weeks ago I was thirlled but I was crying and screaming on the inside. I still find myself jealous and upset when I see or hear of someone else getting pregnant, although I am happy for them. It is completely normal to feel this way, but I do hope I don't feel this way for too long.

Irene1923
by Tina on Nov. 10, 2011 at 12:04 PM

You are not alone.  I can't help but feel those little pangs of jealousy seeing pregnant women or hearing someone got their BFP (even though I am happy for them).  And my SIL is about 9 weeks pregnant with her second and though I am absolutely thrilled for her, I am jealous as well because she'll have two and I don't even have one child yet.  It is hard seeing others with something you want and for a brief moment had.  *Hugs*

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