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Sometimes it's still just plain hard

Posted by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 12:45 AM
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I lost my daughter at 17 weeks in 2008, 5 months after my father died. I dealt with loosing them both, had another son (currently 2) so that makes 3 boys, lost some other family members. Then aug 5 my last grandmother passed away. Two weeks later my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer-she died Jan 22. Since then my baby-radar has gone on high alert. I just want my mommy, daddy, and my baby. I didn't think loosing angel would be brought up (I got prego with my 2 year old on her due date and I always say she is his guardian).
Sorry, just having a rough night. Hubby and I are separated and I'm just feeling sad. Some days it feels like it happened a billion years ago and others it feels like I'm still in the middle of it.
I've been gone awhile so thank you for letting me come back.
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Ashleysnicholas
by Ashley on Feb. 13, 2012 at 10:24 AM

So sorry for all of your losses. It is such a hard thing to go through. Have you thought about seeking a counselor to help you through the grief and loss? I am currently working on it and it is helping....by no means does it take the pain away but it does help me to breathe easier.

You have experienced a lot of loss. I am so sorry. Please know that we are here and understand.

Rota
by New Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 10:28 AM

I am so sorry you are dealing with so many losses.It is hard and you probably feel overwhelmed. Talk to yourself. Yes, tell yourself everyday that you are strong and lovable. That you are a good mom and take excellent care of your family. Admit that you are sad but that it will pass with time and you will be a stronger person very soon. Tell yourself these things and you will believe them. IF you tell yourself that you are sad, discouraged, poor, too tired, etc etc, then that is what you will feel. USe your brain to help you through all this.

KaTrina8187
by KaTrina on Feb. 13, 2012 at 11:39 AM

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Lisa0608
by Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 8:16 PM

I am so sorry, you are dealing with so much, take 1 day at a time. I agree with the suggestion to go for counseling.... My 1st loss was in 1985 and it still hurts.... (((HUGS))))

mommyofnoah208
by Group Mod-Melissa on Feb. 13, 2012 at 10:15 PM
I am so sorry for your losses and hard times. Thinking of you.
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KariBerry002
by New Member on Feb. 14, 2012 at 3:22 PM
Thanks guys. I am in counseling and am working through. Some nights it just gets hard so I'm glad to be back on here. <3 thank you
busyizzybsmom
by Group Mod-Betsy on Feb. 14, 2012 at 5:38 PM

Hugs!!

miyucamui
by Member on Feb. 14, 2012 at 6:16 PM

I am sorry for what you are going through right now. I lost my grandfather when I was pregnant with my son. It was very hard for me since he was like a dad. If you need a friend, I'm here to listen.

Jcothrine
by New Member on Feb. 14, 2012 at 11:56 PM

hello...sorry you have been through so much grieg and so many losses.........

i am a member of this group though my last miscarriage was in 1995.....

nothing has been harder on me...not divorce...poverty.......etc......

losing a child that you already want and love..no matter when it happens is a tragedy and

it is not something you ever really forget... you do...with time..heal to an extent.....

but for you..you keep going through losses which remind you of your tragic loss making it harder to move

on and recover.....


my best wishes to you and your family.....

Jcothrine

sarahtessa
by Sarah on Feb. 15, 2012 at 7:59 AM
Everyone else already said what I would have said. Sending prayers your way. (((hugs)))
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