Having a Hard Time (pg mentioned)

[ryandysprncss]

Later this month will be a year since I miscarried. I am now 26 weeks pregnant with twins (total shock), so my husband doesnt understand why I have been so upset lately about the baby we lost. He thinks I should be thankful and just let it go. I cant she was my baby girl. I am thankful that I am pregnant but Im so sad right now. I am going to talk to my dr next week at my appt. I dont think it is helping our insurance has 4 times now sent letters saying since I am no longer pregnant I shouldnt be seeing a special ob dr. Someone keeps putting these visits under my last pregnancy. Its just so hard because I almost dont know if I have a right to be sad and cry over her since I am pregnant so soon after.

[jellybean2012]

**squeeze** you always have the right to be sad and cry over the loss of your little girl... you can be happy and greatful for the twins while still missing your little girl... hope things get easier for you... also hope your hubby can be a bit more understanding...

[beach_babies]

You have every right to be happy and sad at the same time. Your twins are a blessing but so was your daughter. DH's just see things so different from us, I will be praying for you both..

[busyizzybsmom]

Yes, it's okay to be sad. :) I got pg 3 weeks after our miscarriage and am now 30 weeks and I still cry for our lost one from time to time. No matter how many more children you have, you still have one that died and nothing will change that or make it "all better". Hugs!!

[lovefromabove]

You have every right to be upset! It is harder for the husbands (even tho they really do everything they can to help us) to fully understand the loss of a child even tho you are pregnant now. It is still a loss you still have to grieve. It takes the mothers longer to grieve because we have a stronger emotional and physical connection to the baby than your husband will. I would Definatly check with your OB regarding the Billing becUse the insurance company could denie payment because of the wrong billing the doctors office is doing. Good luck sending XOXO your way!

[echupko]

This

I've had heathlu babies after my losses but still grieve for my children I didn't get to take home

Quoting beach_babies:

You have every right to be happy and sad at the same time. Your twins are a blessing but so was your daughter. DH's just see things so different from us, I will be praying for you both..

[newmom2be08]

You have every right to be sad about losing your child and I wish he could understand that.  Hugs to you and congrats on the twins!

[mommyofnoah208]

It is so great that you are pregnant again with healthy babies!! And of course your thankful for them, but that doesnt make the pain of loosing your baby any less. Its ok to grieve your loss and also be happy for your babies on the way. Thinking of you

[ryandysprncss]

Thank you ladies for making me feel like Im not crazy.

[MommaBoop922]

first off I want to say congrats on your current pregnancy!  Now, first I think that you should definitely call your OB and your insurance company and make sure they understand that someone is messing up here so you stop recieving those ridiculous letters.  I would be so upset if I was you.  As far as your sad feelings.  I completely understand what you are feeling.  I got pregnant with my daughter three months after my 2nd loss and I had days where I was sad.  I feel like its all apart of the grieving process and moving forward to get ready for becoming a mother to your twins.  Your husband may not understand and he really doesnt need to.  HE should just support you.  Hormones also do not help the entire situation.  Its just apart of pregnancy and also the feelings left from your loss.  Just take it one day at a time and try to enjoy the good days :)  ((HUGS)) I hope you have a healthy and happy rest of your pregnancy! 

[lunabella79]

Oh hun, I do not how you feel. I am currently 18 wks pregnant but my due date for my !ngel who passed away at 10 weeks this Summer is on the 25th, and lately I haven't been able to stop thinking about him. I think it's normal and I just keep telling myself that this baby boy that I'm carrying is a gift from Angel.