Does anyone ever feel like wanting to die or commit suicide over a miscarriage? I am not going to do anything just feel like wanting to die since some days I am in alot of pain over my miscarriage. I havn't even looked at my u/s pictures ever since the miscarriage. It hasn't even been one month since the day either.
So sorry honey. I am so glad you have joined this group with us... many of the women here have probably felt the same as you do. I know I have had days where I think I should be in Heaven with my baby because I don't have any other "nurturing" family members there to care for her (weird the things that we worry about). Hang in there girly, and talk to us when ever you need. What is your situation with a hubby/SO? My boyfriend has been my rock, my world since my MC on Jan26th
The night before my d&c was the lowest point in my life. It took about a month before I even admitted this to dh. I was suicidal. I have a ds and truthfully the thought of him living with his father full time was the only thing that kept me from going through with it. I was so depressed. We had a missed miscarriage and everyone around me wanted me to be positive so much so that I fooled myself into feeling like I could still be pregnant even though inside I knew it had been over for quite a while. The two days between my ultrasound where the dr told us we miscarried and the day of our d&c I felt like I was a walking graveyard. There was nothing in me emotionally. It was the lowest point of my entire life. I never ever want to relive that pain.
I am currently engaged and I got pregnant two months after my engagement. My fiance well I think hes coping in his own way. He says we can try again and I think he was more worried about me doing D&E sugery since he knew that was nothing we could do to save the baby. I think hes way is just to hurt over it. Block it out and move on. So its really hard to talk to him about it so I descide to vent out here.
Im so sorry for all of your pain. I have been through this many times. The docs dont know y. You never get use to it. Even though that happen, i still was blessed with 4 healthy children. Had i given up They wouldnt be here now. i know you miss the child you lost, but understand that a part of life is death. You will see your lost child again, but while your here try to make the best of life.
I did feel that way the first month. I told a friend of mine and she said she felt the same way after she had her miscarriage also. We discussed the reason why we both had felt that way. She told me it would pass and that feeling did pass.I felt ashamed that such a thought or feeling could enter my brain. I was so happy to know I wasn't losing my mind and she could relate.
I never wanted to die, but the pain was really difficult to deal with at first. I talked to my Mom about it A LOT and I cried every single day. Getting those emotions out can be very healing. I also saw a counselor and that helped me heal as well. We are here for support...big hugs to you!
Quoting newmom2be08:I never wanted to die, but the pain was really difficult to deal with at first. I talked to my Mom about it A LOT and I cried every single day. Getting those emotions out can be very healing. I also saw a counselor and that helped me heal as well. We are here for support...big hugs to you!
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on Feb. 16, 2012 at 10:57 PM