Currently miscarrying... *TMI graphic*
I went to the doctor last Tuesday. I was supposed to be 17 weeks. The dr checked for heart beat and nothing was found. I went in for U/S and my baby was there but not active, no heart beat and only measured to 14 weeks. I'll spare you the part of how horrible I feel... I started to spot brown the next day. Thursday a bit more blood. I cramp now and then but its mostly just dark brownish redish colored and very small clots coming out. I'm worried whether or not to go to ER. My Dr says that I should expect profuse bleeding but Im not getting anything more than cramping and dark blood. Theres rarely any times when I feel anything come out. Its very slow. Since I have never been through this, how long does it typically take to get through? How long should I wait before going to hospital? I'm sad and scared and have no idea what to expect.
More back ground info... We planned a vacation over spring break so that my DH could meet my family in CA. Our Flight was schedule for the day after the dr's appointment. Obviously the news that I was going to miscarry devestated all of us and I only had 2 options. I stay behind to have a d&c scheduled while my fam goes (so that we werent out 1600 dollars.) and try to find a flight that I could afford to go on after I recovered (completely alone) OR I go to CA with my family and deal with it there around my family and loved ones. My dr rec'd that I stay behind and do a DnC but she said it wasn't an emergency and I could get through it on my own if I wanted to go to CA. I decided to go to CA. I couldnt imagine not having the people I love around me I wasn't about to let them miss the vacation. My DH works 80 hours a week. The vacation was long overdue for him. Even though its not an ideal circumstance but when I call my dr to ask her questions she said for me to get to a dr out here and make a plan. She said I am going to bleed severely and I am not very smart for going out here. Then she said for me to be in touch when I come back into town. She wouldnt answer my questions or anything. IDK any dr's out here and I am guessing I will have to go to Urgent Care or to an ER sometime soon because I am scared and I try looking up what is "normal" to go through with this but the info is so vague it does nothing but frustrate me more... I feel lost, sad, terrified, angry, and I just need advice. I need to know what happens... what I could possibly expect other than heavy bleeding/cramps... Is there any advice anyone can give me? Thanks for taking the time to read this.
((hugs)) I am so sorry your having to go through this hun. In the long run only you can decide what to do I know for myself personally I wanted to try to have it happen naturally. But if you feel like waiting for it to happen is only going to make this harder on you then I would see about having the d&c.
I have no clue, just wanted to offer HUGS. I know other moms on here that it took several weeks for the natural miscarriage to push out the baby. If you are not BLEEDING then I think you still have a little more time. Since you are away from home, maybe try one of your family members OB or the ER if you are worried
i was almost 18 weeks when i found out we had lost him and i went to the ER and they admitted me and induced me and i delivered him....my placenta wouldnt come out and had i not have been in the hospital i could have easily bled to death. zachary measured 12 to 13 weeks and i definitely felt him pass and he looked like a tiny baby. my heart is breaking for you.
I've had six miscarriages and they all start and last differently. I always stay home and have them. Try to avoid a d and c if you can. I had one baby that died at about 8 weeks, but I didn't have the miscarriage till it would have been 5 months along. I wasn't bleeding or spotting that whole time, though. Usually, you start the bleeding/spotting and the tissue/placenta/fetus etc. passes within the day and then you have the post miscarriage bleeding which can last a while, more like a period, or post partum bleeding. My midwife always said that if you soak 3 pads an hour go to the ER!
I really think you should go in to the er and get checked out. That is pretty far along just to pass on your own with out being checked out. When I lost my son at 17 weeks I was induced and delivered and then I ended up needed to go in the or to remove the placenta because it wasn't fully detaching. So sorry you are going through all this
Im so sorry you are having to go through this. I agree with a lot of the ladies that maybe you should go the ER just to be safe. With how far along you are passing the baby may be a little harder and require some extra help or even some pain medication. Good Luck to you and please be sure to let us know you are okay.
I am so sorry!!!! I don't have any advice for you but I wanted to tell you I was thinking and praying for you as you are going through this. Hugs!
Odd AF- is this normal? *TMI?*
- rainrshine48
on Apr. 1, 2012 at 12:18 AM