Currently miscarrying... *TMI graphic*
I went to the doctor last Tuesday. I was supposed to be 17 weeks. The dr checked for heart beat and nothing was found. I went in for U/S and my baby was there but not active, no heart beat and only measured to 14 weeks. I'll spare you the part of how horrible I feel... I started to spot brown the next day. Thursday a bit more blood. I cramp now and then but its mostly just dark brownish redish colored and very small clots coming out. I'm worried whether or not to go to ER. My Dr says that I should expect profuse bleeding but Im not getting anything more than cramping and dark blood. Theres rarely any times when I feel anything come out. Its very slow. Since I have never been through this, how long does it typically take to get through? How long should I wait before going to hospital? I'm sad and scared and have no idea what to expect.
More back ground info... We planned a vacation over spring break so that my DH could meet my family in CA. Our Flight was schedule for the day after the dr's appointment. Obviously the news that I was going to miscarry devestated all of us and I only had 2 options. I stay behind to have a d&c scheduled while my fam goes (so that we werent out 1600 dollars.) and try to find a flight that I could afford to go on after I recovered (completely alone) OR I go to CA with my family and deal with it there around my family and loved ones. My dr rec'd that I stay behind and do a DnC but she said it wasn't an emergency and I could get through it on my own if I wanted to go to CA. I decided to go to CA. I couldnt imagine not having the people I love around me I wasn't about to let them miss the vacation. My DH works 80 hours a week. The vacation was long overdue for him. Even though its not an ideal circumstance but when I call my dr to ask her questions she said for me to get to a dr out here and make a plan. She said I am going to bleed severely and I am not very smart for going out here. Then she said for me to be in touch when I come back into town. She wouldnt answer my questions or anything. IDK any dr's out here and I am guessing I will have to go to Urgent Care or to an ER sometime soon because I am scared and I try looking up what is "normal" to go through with this but the info is so vague it does nothing but frustrate me more... I feel lost, sad, terrified, angry, and I just need advice. I need to know what happens... what I could possibly expect other than heavy bleeding/cramps... Is there any advice anyone can give me? Thanks for taking the time to read this.