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"helpful" words?

Posted by on Apr. 6, 2012 at 4:50 PM
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I feel like bonding and slightly venting with you all. So, what are some "helpful" words people have given you that only made you more upset or hurt or what-have-you?

For example: people have told me that my son is in a better place now and the only thing I could think of was "What better place is there than with me?"

by on Apr. 6, 2012 at 4:50 PM
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newmom2be08
by Sarah on Apr. 6, 2012 at 5:08 PM

My grandma, bless her heart, said it is for the best.  I know she was trying to help, but it hurt.  :(

turtlebear
by on Apr. 6, 2012 at 10:06 PM

I'm sorry

Quoting newmom2be08:

My grandma, bless her heart, said it is for the best.  I know she was trying to help, but it hurt.  :(


sarahtessa
by on Apr. 6, 2012 at 11:12 PM
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I actually take comfort in knowing my baby is in a better place --- the only place better than with Mommy? --- to be with Jesus. <3 my sweet Angelica will never know human pain and suffering, only the glory of God's love. There is no greater comfort for me.
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alanasmumma
by on Apr. 6, 2012 at 11:40 PM

 Someone told me that as much as it hurt that it was better this way. Someone at work told me that it was a good thing because we wouldn't have to worry about having more than one person out on maternity leave.... yes I was stressing about having another baby and yes, it was going to be crazy at work with 2 people on maternity leave at the same time but that doesn't mean I wanted to give up my baby or that I feel that this way is better...

turtlebear
by on Apr. 8, 2012 at 12:43 AM

That is horrible, I'm sorry they said that to you.

Quoting alanasmumma:

 Someone told me that as much as it hurt that it was better this way. Someone at work told me that it was a good thing because we wouldn't have to worry about having more than one person out on maternity leave.... yes I was stressing about having another baby and yes, it was going to be crazy at work with 2 people on maternity leave at the same time but that doesn't mean I wanted to give up my baby or that I feel that this way is better...


brittani
by on Apr. 8, 2012 at 12:51 AM
I got the usual its for the best and he or she is in a better place. I also got a few pros that barked at me saying see that's why you wait until after the first trimester to say anything......really
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turtlebear
by on Apr. 8, 2012 at 1:17 AM

I lost my baby boy during Birth when I was 19 weeks. I hadn't told anyone yet for legality reasons and when I called my mom and told her she told me she would never consider him to be her grandchild....

turtlebear
by on Apr. 8, 2012 at 1:18 AM

I'm sorry

Quoting brittani:

I got the usual its for the best and he or she is in a better place. I also got a few pros that barked at me saying see that's why you wait until after the first trimester to say anything......really


alanasmumma
by on Apr. 8, 2012 at 2:22 AM

 How horrible! I'm so sorry you had to hear you mom say that to you.

Quoting turtlebear:

I lost my baby boy during Birth when I was 19 weeks. I hadn't told anyone yet for legality reasons and when I called my mom and told her she told me she would never consider him to be her grandchild....

 

Connie127
by on Apr. 8, 2012 at 2:24 AM
I'm sorry


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