Self Blame~ Does everyone do it?
I've noticed a few posts where you ladies blame yourself for some reason or another.
I feel like I've blamed myself...and the matters were totally out of my control. I feel like I am to blame because I got sick with Valley Fever. I feel like I failed my baby, and he never had a chance. Now there is no way I can control that I inhalled some airborne spore...but I still blame myself. I went to 3 doctors, all telling me I had pneumonia and treated me for that...which of course I do, but it was all due to Valley Fever and the pneumonia won't clear without treating the underlying issue of the VF.
So I was talking to my Mom, and apparently my husband also blames himself...he discussed it with her. He feels he is to blame because he moved us here, to the desert, where valley fever is endemic. He knows I didn't want to move here, so he blames himself.
Is the Blame a normal part of the grieving process?