Miscarriage 06/24 still 06/25

[Ashpatch]

My name is Ashley
I was 9 weeks 1 day
Have son 22 months
Married
25 years old
Active 3-4 days a week
Eat well with a side of junk food here n there not perfect.



I lost my baby. I am sad and want to talk with others who have been here.

Yesterday afternoon I went pee ans looked down my underwear looked as though I had my period. Went to ER they ran hormon levels ( to low) and I lost the baby they just sent me home to deal with it.
I have apt for wed more blood work and to go from there.

Yesterday evening I was filling up my pads with blood and went to washroom when it felt like it was gushing out blood... I heard the bloop and new it was the bAbY I looked in toilet and it was size if a. Cucumber slice sideways. I was only 9weeks 1 day along.

I am still cramping and bleeding with clots. What happens now is bigger clots coming? The placenta? Or is it just coming in small bits I have no idea. I skipped work today can't face everyone they all know I was expecting gossip gets around.

On top of the my son 22months had to stay home from daycare has fever HAVE to talk him to walkin in.... Think it's ear infection :( daddy works from home so he can help if I can't handle it. But Austin my son is sick wants his mama.
I know I Need rest n I am cramping bleeding possible still misscaraige going on with plasentA? Not sure really. Is this ok for me to be pushing myself? I feel so sad n stressed like I don't even have time to grieve.

I had IUD out and got prego right away....anyone else wonder if it might have been from IUD maybe should have waited longer after IUD to not use protection.

Tell me ur story's and anything u might find helpful.

Here's what I am finding helpful...
1- heat pad
2- super thick pads
3- what my best friend told me when she found out I lost baby ( ash something was wrong with the baby that's why it didn't make it.... Would u have wanted a child that had something wrong with it? Not that anything is wrong with people with different abilities but something just was not right. Nothing anyone did.


Thanks to anyone who posts back
Sorry for everyone who finds themselves in groups like this.... Never thought it would happen to ppl like us.

[mommyofnoah208]

I am so sorry for your loss. You may want to go back to the dr earlier to have them check since you passed your baby.
Its so hard to go through lossing your baby. I lost my so around 17weeks in July 2010 and was induced and delivered. Thinking of you. Welcome to the group and I hope you find support here

[MamaRamma]

 First off, HUGS and I'm sorry for your loss. I was 9w4d when we found out at our 2nd US that our baby didn't have a heart beat. I remember not believing the tech and just assuming she didn't know what she was doing. It didn't really sink it until the next day when I knew I had to decide what to do. I wanted to just wait and let my body take care of things, but I couldn't. I couldn't leave the house, sleep or function just waiting around. SO I took the RX offered, I bled badly with awful cramping, clots passing, etc for about 12 hours. I didn't see anything that resembled a baby, but my OB said it has passed at least a few weeks back and had started decomposing inside me. (YUCK) and I may not see anything that looked like anything other than blood. SO, that happened. I tried to start moving on. Still feeling really tired, not any better and was still getting very clear pos of HPT. 2 weeks after that, I started spotting and then heavy bleeding and cramping....went in to OB, US showed that everything was still inside me. (BIG SIGH) So had to have an urgent D & C on 6/15. It's been over a week. I'm still spotting a little, but for the most part am starting to feel better. Neg, HPTs and my nasty bruises from the IVs are almost gone. I'm drained from the physical side of this taking so long and emotionally I'm a little numb still. Each day is different. Some days I can get along fine, others I'm a mess. I'm learning there is no wrong way to feel and all I can to is try to control how I choose to react to what is on my plate that particular day. I also ha an IUD for 4 and 1/2 years, but didn't get pregnant for 5 months after removal. I'd like to blame that, but we'll never know. I find comfort in knowing Cameron Leigh is in heaven and a much better place, but nothing will ever fill the void he or she passing leaves me with. I hope you feel better soon and know everyone here is wonderful and willing to listen and share. HUGS!

[LilSarahgirl]

I'm so sorry for your loss. You will probably continue to bleed for awhile. Your body is just taking care of itself the way it's intended to after a loss. I bled for a week after my miscarriage. Of course everyone's body is different. I tried not to push myself too hard during that time, but I have a toddler too do obviously you still have responsibilities. After he went to bed was my time to relax and grieve. Tears and long walks helped me most of all. And time. It takes time to heal. I lost my baby 9 months ago, but it still hurts sometimes. I never knew what caused me to lose my baby. I am a healthy 26 yr old with a healthy 2 yr old. I guess I will never know for sure. Thankfully I've been blessed with another healthy pregnancy. I'm 25 weeks along with a healthy baby boy. Hugs. I wish you well.

[Kennadismom]

I am so sorry for your loss. I understand having another child that needs you but please try to get as much rest as possible. You came to right group for someone to talk to. These women helped me tremendously through my MC 2 weeks ago. Its an awful feeling. Those who haven't been thru it think its easy to say "well that means something was wrong...its better happening now" which has some truth to it but doesn't make it any easier. If you need ti talk feel free to pm me.

[mr.scariesmommy]

I'm sorry for ur loss. U might bleed a while sometimes it takes a bit to get it all out. I was 26 weeks when I lost my son he hadn't moved in a bit so I went for an ultrasound and his heart stopped beating. May 1st I went and was induced and he was born at almost 5pm. I held him for like three hrs before I let them take him. We had him cremated so he is home with us one way or another. He wasn't producing his amiotic fluid like his body was supposed to by peeing so we were told that he had kidney problems and that most likely caused him to pass. So if he were to have made it to term they didn't know if he would make it. Knowing why we lost him has really helped us with being OK that we lost him since we wouldn't have wanted him to suffer.
I would see about maybe going to the dr if the bleeding is really bad and get checked out just in case. U don't want to lose too much blood. And if u feel like resting then do so. I was doing too much and that made my bleeding start stop start stop.

[Ladybugmama86]

 I am so sorry about your loss. I lost my fullterm son in January. Since you passed the baby already you should call your dr.

Good luck hun.

[xoNIKKIox]

I agree that you need to see your doctor ASAP to make sure that whatever you are experiencing is normal. Your doctor will also want to see you later to make sure you have passed all tissue (any tissue left in you could lead to serious complications/infection) and are okay. I can't say for sure what you are passing now, but I saw lots of blood and tissue/clots when I miscarried. 

If at all possible, don't push yourself so hard. It is physically and emotionally taxing to miscarry. You need to take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[AidensMommy1026]

I am sorry for your loss hun, I agree with the other ladies. Stay calm and make sure you take care of yourself. Everything will be okay mama. Best wishes. 

[leeannj23]

Hey Ashpatch,

I miscarried 6/24. Im so upset. We were so excited because we wanted a girl. I wasn't as far as you, I was only 7 weeks. I found out early though because my cycles are very regular and always on time. so missing it day one I knew. I took a pregnancy test x 3 and they all showed up immediately bright pink lines.. no having to guess if I was pregnant or not. I already have 2 children and had the same symptoms, tender breast, etc. So having 3 weeks to process and share with everyone that we were expecting had mentally prepared me and I had already started bonding. Eating right, taking prenatal vitamins, etc.. I work nights so, Sunday I went to bed at 8am, I woke up at 1pm to use the restroom. I didn't feel cramps but after I urinated I found pink blood on my toliet tissue. I looked in the toliet and small clot was there. I immediately screamed for my husband. Of course he was "maybe this is nothing to worry about, try and stay calm" Though I am not a labor and delivery nurse, I knew this was not normal. The color and consistency was different. I went to the doctor Monday (yesterday) and they told me that I was miscarrying. They did an ultrasound and I knew I should see at least a heartbeat, there was nothing.. He stated he could see tissue that would "make its way out".. I have to go back tomorrow for labs and next week for a follow up. I know to make sure I don't need a D&C. I doubt I will, usually this early body can do it on its own.

Im devastated.. I have a 20 month old thats home with me while my husband works so I don't have that time either to run off to bed and just cry.. I am  trying to put my energy into him, but its hard too because I think of the possibilities that are missed right now with being due in Feb and how I already had ideas of my son and the little one( which i prayed for a girl) to play together..

I am praying on getting through this process and praying for you and others. I am trying to understand this as a process of my body knows this was an unhealthy pregnancy and chromosomes didn't form that should have.. still hard and trying to mend a broken  heart right now..

good luck to you and your family.

[lovethislife313]

i am saddened by your loss as well. i have had 3 miscarriages. and went thru the same thing. but i went to the dr each time, and they told me it would be best to have  D&C done. to make sure everything passes. because if it doesnt, then it could set u up for another loss. i would definately go to the dr. and please done overdue yourself. the best way for me to heal was to be alone and sleep it off. best of luck to you :)