Telling my 5 year old he's not going to be a Big Brother now :(

[MsWood729]

I knew that it would be hard, but I also knew that I could never lie to him. Every morning my son kisses my Tummy & says Good Morning Baby. So the morning after I MC I just knew that I had to tell him. I sat him on my lap & explained to him that our Baby was so special, that GOD wanted to keep our Baby to help protect us & watch over us while we move overseas. I also explained to him that we have our very own special Angel now & when we say our prayers we can ask Baby to look over us & make sure everything is okay. I also explained to him that when he wants to see the baby all he has to do is look at the book I had put together of our Baby since I found out we were expecting. I know it's a lot to take in for a 5 year old but I feel like honesty is the right rode for our Family. I never want it to be a time when he can't come to me & ask a question or look for advice.

How did you tell your other children that you MC???

[Ladybugmama86]

 My 2 and 4 year olds were with me when I found out Ryder was gone and Skylar (my 4 yo) asked why I was crying I told her that baby Ryder had gone to be with Jesus and that he wouldn't be coming home with us like we thought because he is very special and now hes an angel. She was sobbing and kept saying she didn't want an angel, she wanted baby Ryder...... It was really hard. She stilllooks at his picture and says "thats baby Ryder, hes an angel with heaven with Jesus"

SInce he passed we have had a friend have a baby and the first time Skylar met baby Zoey she asked why baby Zoey came home and Baby Ryder didn't. I told her its because baby Ryder is a very special baby and baby Zoey is just a cute baby.

I am so osrry for your loss =( Hugs.

[MommaNoonoo]

I'm sorry. We had told dd that she would be a big sister right before her fifth birthday and I lost the baby the day after her birthday. I told her immediately, such a hard thing to do!

My grandmother died two weeks later and dd told me that "grandma went to take care of our baby in heaven." She still carries the ultrasound and talks to the baby.

This season of our lives sucks. Hope you and your family get through this smoothly *hugs*!

[MommaBoop922]

I didnt have any children when I had my loss but I think the way you handled it was wonderful! Im sorry for you and your familys loss 

[TiphaniMommy]

Happy to see you joined the group Holli. As you know I never told Tiphani I wa pregnant but if I ha to explain to her what happene I would do it the same way you did.

[newmom2be08]

Jacob was too young to understand the miscarriage, so we didn't tell him.  Hugs to you and I'm sorry for your loss. :(

[jessicasmom1]

aww :-( I have a 12 year old DD she seen me go through it so does not ask questions just knows.

[Mrs.Campfield]

My ds is four.  He was 3.5 when we had our latest loss.  We were far enough along for him to know he was going ot be a big brother as well.  We explained it in much the same way that you did.  We told him that god wanted the baby to be an angel.  He was convinced the baby was a boy, he often talks about his his baby brother is in heaven being taken care of by god and the other angels.  

[busyizzybsmom]

That was definitely one of the hardest parts for me too. :( my kids (5&2 at the time) didn't know I was pregnant yet, but I wanted them to know that they now had a sibling in Heaven. I sat down with a book showing the growth of the baby and showed them how big it should have been vs. how big it was and told them they'd meet little Amara in heaven. My 5yo drew pictures of our family with Amara still in my belly and all of us crying years of joy because we were so happy that she/he was still alive. :(

[sugarbaby042905]

My 7 year old is still having a hard time with it.  I lost my Ava 3 weeks ago (I was about 22 weeks) and my son knew we were having a girl, he was so excited couldn't wait to finally have someone to play with.  When I told him, he broke down and cried, I told him Jesus needed her more than we did, it was her time.  It was so hard to try to explain, now he still gets upset when her name is brought up, but just yesterday was talking about how she will always be in his heart.  They way you handled it was perfect.  Im so sorry for your loss.  Hugs

[mommyofnoah208]

 So sorry for your loss :( Thinking of you and your family. I think that was a good decision to make. My son was only 2 and he didn't understand when I told him, he is now 4 and I will talk about our baby, but I don't think he quite understands yet