Family size

[silka08]

Did experiencing a loss affect how many children you plan(ned) on having? Obviously we dont always get to decide family size, but did it change your desires?

[tinyfootprint]

We always wanted one more....i have a daughter from a previous relationship..and together we have a son...we lost our second child together in march...and are now pregnant again...hoping for our 2nd and final child together

[echupko]

I've always wanted at least 4

[blessedmommie07]

Yes our loss affected how many children/pregnancies we were thinking of having.  We just lost our 3rd child but first daughter on May 3rd, 2012, she was going to be our last.  We originally just wanted 3 kids, well I wanted five and DH just wanted to try one last time (for our 3rd child) for a girl.  Because Isabelle passed our family doesn't feel complete and we feel like we need to try one last time.  We would like 3 living children but if our next pregnancy has a fatal birth defect like our daughter I have no idea what we will decide.  So right now I guess it all depends on how our next preganancy goes but I believe DH just wants 3 living kids for now.

[mommyofnoah208]

Yes. My first son was a preemie, then I lost my second so both of those experiences made me rethink. Then we tried for our last..my daughter...it was a tough pregnancy with a few scares and I almost died after her delivery so we are definately done. I always thought I would have a big family..but 2 living children is what I have and I am at peace with that for the most part. And feel its best for me and my family.

[Angela4boys]

Not really.  We have 5, and as we've gotten older, we kinda just feel like we want more.  We don't really have a set number, I guess?   Something happened when we had number 4, and having more just didn't seem out of the question anymore.

[mbittles1384]

No we just had a miscarriage but if we have another one then we are done we have 1dd who is 2

[sjamom]

 I always wanted 3, we have 2 children and tried for the 3rd and have had 2 miscarriages in 6 months.  We are going to take a break and mayb try one more time and be done after that either way.

[xoNIKKIox]

I lost my first pregnancy, so we hadn't even begun our family. We had to build our family afterward--and we kept to our planned number. :-)

[cali_angel_girl]

I've always wanted at least 3 but at the moment I just have my two.  Right now it's undecided if we're gonna try for a 3rd or not.

[silka08]

I was content with my 2 and pretty against havibg more. Then surprise preg that ended in m/c I wanted nothing more than a third. Took awhile, but had our third. After all that I felt kids were such a gift I almost want more. I dont know why. Was just curious if losses made others want more than planned. I dont know that we'll ever have more, im completely contentif dont, just for some reason feel we may want more.