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Posted by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 1:26 AM
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Ive been thinking about donating my eggs . Ve talked with family and a few friends about it and ive goten some very weird looks and osome just plain rude commits.the only ppl who have supported the idea is my bf and a very good friend. My bf really doesnt care either way the only thing hes concerned about is me taking the hormones. My friend had actually went threw trying to have a child for years before she finally got her beautiful lil girl. So she's been in a situation that shes had to think about options like egg donation . Others have been pretty harsh , saying things like why would u want to give your children away and thats going against gods plans . The worst thing said to me was. Well u supposedly grieve so much for the son you lost and now ur just going to give your babies away, its the same thing as u killing them. That last one really hurt and made me feel like a horrible mother so i stopped looking into donating for awhile. Well now im starting to consider donating again . And i want to get yall options on donation. Has anyone donated or received eggs? Am i a horrible mother for considering it? Am i going against god? . If anyone has any info on the process id appreciate some details on it . How long after giving birth do i need to wait? Also d like to add that i am done having children . Thats the main reason i think now would be a good time to donate. Im 22 and health. And the way i was looking at it is im done having babies so why not help another women have a better chance at being a mother. . Plz dont bash . Want your honest opinions but i dont think i can handle anymore intentionally hurtful comments on this subject
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Angela4boys
by Angela on Oct. 6, 2012 at 7:30 AM

I don't think it's a bad thing to do, if you are really interested, contact a fertility center, they will screen you to see if you are a good candidate, emotionally, physically etc...and they will also tell you what you are up for in terms of hormones and time involved.  I know it's not an easy process...it will most likely involve first Birth Control pills, as the center usually likes to have all clients on the same cycle, daily shots, which often cause weight gain, migraines, etc, and then the actual harvest, which isn't all that comfortable either. 

Also part of the screening process, you will have a complete physical, including psychological, probably an IQ test as well, and they will want to know your complete family history.  It's very rigorous.  They want choice eggs basically, the recipients want to know when they are paying big money for donated eggs, that they get them from a prime donor. 

My feeling is, as an adult, we make our own decisions, that we feel good about and can live with.  Others don't need to morally agree, but if they are true to us, they should support us regardless...or it is a reflection on them.  Nobody can tell you what the right decision is, that is up to you.  Good luck with your decision.

Mamasita7176
by Susan on Oct. 6, 2012 at 9:04 AM
I think it's wonderful! You're giving a gift that is priceless! So many ladies dream of having babies and can't. God bless you for your courage and heart! You are not killing these babies or giving them away. They really aren't babies until fertilized by sperm. If you don't donate them they die regardless. Those negative comments are from people who don't get it or know what they are talking about. Kudos to you mama!
mommyofnoah208
by Melissa on Oct. 6, 2012 at 10:08 AM
That is a big decision! But it is also such a great thing to do for someone. I would definately talk with a specialist more to see what it all entails
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iSMILEheCRIES
by Gold Member on Oct. 6, 2012 at 6:32 PM
I think its a wonderful gift. I just went to a fertility doc and he said using donated eggs and sperm is very rare now because IVF can help most people- not sure how accurate that is, but would hate for you to go through a lot of pain and time and your gift never be used. I have considered embroyo adoption if I have to do IVF-basically I would give away any fertilized embroyos I didn't need/use. I don't think people who have not experienced a loss can understand how precious motherhood is..you are wanting to give others a gift and people who haven't struggled ttc or lost a baby can't understand
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purfectlilly
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 6:40 PM

 i think that this is a precious gift that you are willing to give. anyone that would consider criticizing you for it has no idea what it is like to live with this issue. i think that GOD teaches us to love and forgive. so if anyone is throwing religion at you, they need to read a little bit more.

Lilly

crystal-boyd
by on Oct. 6, 2012 at 8:06 PM
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Thank u all . I feel much better about the situation. I applied to donate months ago before i mentioned it to anyone. I received two emails to call a clinic to set up a interview i think ill b calling them on Monday... Thank u again!
blessedmommie07
by Desiree on Oct. 7, 2012 at 1:49 PM

Donating your eggs is one of the most self-less things you could ever do.  It would truly be a wonderful gift to women you can't use their eggs.  Your not a bad mother at all your a great person.  Just ignore what other people say.  But are you sure your done having babies?  You are still young and might change your mind.  *Hugs*

crystal-boyd
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 4:39 PM
Quoting blessedmommie07:

Donating your eggs is one of the most self-less things you could ever do.  It would truly be a wonderful gift to women you can't use their eggs.  Your not a bad mother at all your a great person.  Just ignore what other people say.  But are you sure your done having babies?  You are still young and might change your mind.  *Hugs*


yes im sure lol. Although i had considered being a surrogate mother. Im not able.to do it tho. I didnt.pass the emotional and mental evaluation because of losing one of my sons.
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