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Advanced Maternal Age

Posted by on Nov. 14, 2012 at 4:17 PM
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I am going to pick up our fetal death letter today so we can go to hospital to pick up the "remains" and bury them on Friday.  They put on the letter my risk factor of advanced maternal age.  I am so sick of hearing that.  My fertility specialist put that as my reason I couldn't get pregnant when he couldn't figure it out and I was only 35.  Now I am 37 and the only thing they can think of as the reason I lost the baby at 11 weeks is advanced maternal age? We need more research in obstetrics that's all I can say.

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kimscorner
by Bronze Member on Nov. 14, 2012 at 4:54 PM

I was 39 when I miscarried my only miscarriage.  They just must not have any other reason.  Usually they'll say it was just a chromosonal abnormality.

It's still possible to carry a healthy baby to full term.  I had my rainbow baby 7 months ago at 40.  I'm 41 now (August birthday) and had no complications with that pregnancy or delivery at all.  :)

Sorry for your loss, but keep positive thoughts.

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Zealand2008
by Bronze Member on Nov. 14, 2012 at 5:05 PM

That is what they say when they have no answers.  It's just such a crap answer.  I am healthy and I take very good care of myself.  Many women have children well into their 40s.  I just wish they would just say we don't know.

Zealand2008
by Bronze Member on Nov. 14, 2012 at 5:11 PM

Did you have any fertility issues before you got pregnant at 39?  Also what is a rainbow baby?  Ive seen that term several times.

Quoting kimscorner:

I was 39 when I miscarried my only miscarriage.  They just must not have any other reason.  Usually they'll say it was just a chromosonal abnormality.

It's still possible to carry a healthy baby to full term.  I had my rainbow baby 7 months ago at 40.  I'm 41 now (August birthday) and had no complications with that pregnancy or delivery at all.  :)

Sorry for your loss, but keep positive thoughts.


iSMILEheCRIES
by Platinum Member on Nov. 14, 2012 at 6:27 PM

 (I am going to butt in because I get the warm fuzzies when I get to explain Rainbow Babies)  A rainbow baby is the most beautiful baby- a baby that comes after the rocky storm of pain and hearthbreak a miscarriage starts. 

Quoting Zealand2008:

Did you have any fertility issues before you got pregnant at 39?  Also what is a rainbow baby?  Ive seen that term several times.

Quoting kimscorner:

I was 39 when I miscarried my only miscarriage.  They just must not have any other reason.  Usually they'll say it was just a chromosonal abnormality.

It's still possible to carry a healthy baby to full term.  I had my rainbow baby 7 months ago at 40.  I'm 41 now (August birthday) and had no complications with that pregnancy or delivery at all.  :)

Sorry for your loss, but keep positive thoughts.

 

 

blessedmommie07
by Desiree on Nov. 14, 2012 at 6:37 PM

*Hugs* I'm sorry.

lovebugs_mom906
by Lisa on Nov. 14, 2012 at 6:46 PM

And I start to cry...happy tears :-)

Quoting iSMILEheCRIES:

 (I am going to butt in because I get the warm fuzzies when I get to explain Rainbow Babies)  A rainbow baby is the most beautiful baby- a baby that comes after the rocky storm of pain and hearthbreak a miscarriage starts. 

Quoting Zealand2008:

Did you have any fertility issues before you got pregnant at 39?  Also what is a rainbow baby?  Ive seen that term several times.

Quoting kimscorner:

I was 39 when I miscarried my only miscarriage.  They just must not have any other reason.  Usually they'll say it was just a chromosonal abnormality.

It's still possible to carry a healthy baby to full term.  I had my rainbow baby 7 months ago at 40.  I'm 41 now (August birthday) and had no complications with that pregnancy or delivery at all.  :)

Sorry for your loss, but keep positive thoughts.


 


lovebugs_mom906
by Lisa on Nov. 14, 2012 at 6:49 PM

I agree that it's a crap answer. Its what they say when there's nothing else to say. I'm sorry. <<HUGS>>

Angela4boys
by Angela on Nov. 14, 2012 at 7:24 PM
I am advanced too :) I lost my baby at 16 weeks at the age of 35. They think I lost the baby due to a lung infection I got right at 12 weeks, but at the time of my loss, my illness was still misdiagnosed. I asked one of the doctors that came in if it was my age that caused our babies death and his words were "no, not at all, at 35 you are still a babe in the womb." I am going with that, you and I are still young :). We are going to get our rainbows!
shelly69
by on Nov. 14, 2012 at 7:52 PM

I will be 43 in Dec. & will be having my 8th baby in Jan. But with that said I have had 3 losses since Nov. 2011. My Dr. never said why, I am just chalking it up to my age & bad eggs...This does happen when you get older, but it is not impossible to deliver a healthy baby after age 35...good luck... & sorry for your loss...

Zealand2008
by Bronze Member on Nov. 14, 2012 at 10:16 PM

Since I found the Pope Paul VI Institute and NaPro technology there is no mention of advanced maternal age.  They do not believe that's a reason for infertility or miscarriage.  I really hope that the information in NaPro Technology spreads because it is changing the way we address fertility and repeat miscarriages.  It's been an amazing experience.  Still they are in Nebraska and my doctors out here do not have that knowledge so I'm stuck with old age.  

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