UPDATE:OT- crazy exwife VENT
I know a few of ya'll have heard me vent about my boyfriend's exwife (remember she's a prostitute and the kids got taken away by CPS-kids aren't my boyfriends bio but he raised them for 12 years). So we are 2 hours from San Antonio to visit the kids when Mommy dearest calls and says we can't see them if J (the man who has custody of them- an ex "customer" of hers who I believe is involved with the 15 year old daughter)doesn't come along. And now she wants allllll of us to go to dinner together. She is crazy- plus she is like 35 weeks pregnant and I doubt I can sit across from her and see her like that.
So, I am the bigger woman and we invited exwife and her new boyfriend/baby daddy to dinner. I thought it would be uncomfortable, but it wasn't- because they physco sat at the other end of the table and talked to NO ONE. She hasn't seen her 3 kids since before Christmas and she hasn't seen my stepson since March of LAST year. She came into the resteraunt and said hello to him and then NOTHING. We let SS spend the night with his siblings at J's house (J has the be present with the children at all times- if moms sees them he is there, even if we want to see them). So then after dinner she goes and visits the kids for a few minutes. Today we decided to play nice again and invited her to go shopping with all the kids and us this evening. She never even showed up!! She was crying and bitching that we are keeping SS from her and this whole trip is about her being with her kids... and we are trying to give her the chance and she doesn't take it. Did I mention she is pregnant again??? I am so upset by this. She can't even be alone with her children, what are they going to do with this newborn in a few weeks? On a side note if the daughter and the "caregiver" are involved I don't feel so bad about it now. The guy is just a big kid, he is a lot younger than I thought (maybe 22ish) and kinda dorky. I still don't think its right, but he seems to be very sane and just trying to help and is getting the raw end of the deal. I have a question... if child services placed the kids in his care shouldn't he get the food stamp card and housing assistance and daycare assistance? Why is mom still getting it?