DH taking it hard. Self medicating.. so not what i need right now. EDT
so as you you know i had a d&c for a miscarriage 3 days ago. I didnt know i was pregnant and the baby came out in the toilet at home. I am taking it a bit hard and while dh is being as supportive as he can, I think he is internalizing. Maybe because he doesnt want to upset me further, or maybe because its just too hard for him. But i know the last fe nights he hasnt been sleeping. Last night his sister gave him some xannax to help him relax and get some sleep since we have been on edge. And he took all of them! I had a hard time waking him up this morning.. and after speaking to him on the phone i just want to kill him. He sounds all doped out and confused. I know hes hurting, but trying to kill the pain with drugs is not the answer.. and not something i want to be dealing with during this time. I dont know what to do with him at this point! and he is at an urology appointment that we have been waiting a month for. I feel so embarassed that he went to the doctors like that! Im at a loss for words..
EDIT: So we got into a huge fight last night - over the same thing. He promised not to take any more and apologized, but what did he do.. he took them again last night. I flipped on him. I had asked his sister not to give any more. But thats her brother, so she probably gave in. He said he only took 2 - my ass. You dont sit on the couch with your head nodding out if you have only taken 2. We started fighting and I may have said some hurtful remarks. But I dont want to see him this way. I called him a dope head and he was extremely hurt by this. He doesnt understand I love him and the reason it pisses me off so much is because i love him and dont want to see him like that. Am i being selfish? Should back off a bit and let him greive his own way? Am I overreacting? I just think its unhealthy. I mean if he were drinking it out I dont think I would be so upset, so maybe I am overreacting a little bit.