babyshower

[shonda71942]

hey everyone i had someone tell me i was selfish for not going to my cousin and aunt babyshower i really dont feel up to it now cus my due date for my first child is 2/9/13 same day as one of the showers and i just had another lost 12/26/12 i feel really bad my feelings are so hurt how could someone tell you that

[blessedmommie07]

Personally that would just piss me off and I would say something rude like "have you lost a child? No so you don't know what your saying" or "sure I'll be selfish instead of forced to go somewhere after I have lost babies and have baby stuff shoved down my throat while I'm dying inside because I should be bringing a baby home not at a STUPID SHOWER!"  

Okay so maybe thats dramatic lol.  But really they are crap if they aren't sensitive to your feelings.  I went to a shower last weekend for the first time since I had lossed my daughter but granted it had been over 8 months.  And it was for a baby boy which was so much better than a baby girl shower which I would have had.   *hugs*

[shonda71942]

At least someone understand its been tearing me apart and they all having boys the samething i was having

 

[blessedmommie07]

Yea I had an invite from a baby loss friend to her baby shower.  And I might have gone but I think I clung to the excuses I had.  I don't know if I could stand being forced to a baby girl shower.  Don't let them make you feel bad.  They are being selfish and insensitive to you. 

Quoting shonda71942:

At least someone understand its been tearing me apart and they all having boys the samething i was having

[Angela4boys]

Don't feel bad, make no apologies!  Hopefully they never have to understand the pain of losing a child.  You take care of you.  I'm sorry you have been hurt by this ignorant person.  (((hugs)))

[ashtie]

Dont feel bad you are not selfish, my bestfriends were both due around the same time I was 2 weeks Before me 2 weeks after me and I did not go to either 1 of the baby shower because it hurt too bad they need to understand that you have to grieve I'm so sorry this is hard for you right now but it will get better

[Mayruchia]

 I could not have said it better myself love this .

Quoting blessedmommie07:

Personally that would just piss me off and I would say something rude like "have you lost a child? No so you don't know what your saying" or "sure I'll be selfish instead of forced to go somewhere after I have lost babies and have baby stuff shoved down my throat while I'm dying inside because I should be bringing a baby home not at a STUPID SHOWER!"  

Okay so maybe thats dramatic lol.  But really they are crap if they aren't sensitive to your feelings.  I went to a shower last weekend for the first time since I had lossed my daughter but granted it had been over 8 months.  And it was for a baby boy which was so much better than a baby girl shower which I would have had.   *hugs*

 

[Mrs.Velasquez]

Quoting Angela4boys:

Don't feel bad, make no apologies!  Hopefully they never have to understand the pain of losing a child.  You take care of you.  I'm sorry you have been hurt by this ignorant person.  (((hugs)))

[Namaste09]

Never compromise your feelings to make others happy.
Stay at home they should respect your feelings, I wouldn't go either.

[brittanyjenean]

Don't feel bad for not going and whomever said that needs to be slapped. With my first miscarriage I was supposed to throw a babyshower for my best friend and when I found out what was happening with me she changed everything so I could stay home and rest. In this life, you have people who care and people you just want to run over with a semi.

[Ladybugmama86]

 They are just a**wipes that have never been through your losses. Screw them and dont go if you dont want to.

Hugs sweetie

Just so you know my mil tried to give me crap about going ot sil babyshower to I told her I am not talking about it and I am not going. End of story. She got the hint. Sometimes you just have to be firm with them.