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Would you be hurt ???

Posted by on Feb. 24, 2013 at 11:53 AM
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So I told dh our first baby would have been born any day now and he tells me you need to just learn to let's it go . Wow I am in tears and feel like I was just slapped in the face . He is always supportive so I would have never thought he would say that . Would you be hurt and am I crazy for still thinking about it ?
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Angela4boys
by Angela on Feb. 24, 2013 at 12:03 PM
Ouch! I would tell him that hurt you. My feeling is, if it's important to you, it's important. I'm sorry :(
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ilovekeith12
by Member on Feb. 24, 2013 at 12:20 PM
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He just said he was sorry , that when I talk about it ,it makes him think about our babies .so I guess we deal with it in differant ways . Ty
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momofcrazypants
by Leslie on Feb. 24, 2013 at 8:04 PM

No, you're not crazy. We all think about things like that. I would be hurt. I'm so sorry. :(

mommyofnoah208
by Melissa on Feb. 24, 2013 at 9:55 PM
I am sorry :( men are so hard to talk to about things. Thinking of you
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Irene1923
by Tina on Feb. 24, 2013 at 10:12 PM
I am sorry. I had a similar response from my DH when I mentioned our first would be turning one if we hadn't lost her. These milestones and dates will always hurt a little and will always be days we will think of our angels. Sorry he doesn't really understand.
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lunarmamma
by on Feb. 24, 2013 at 10:42 PM
You're not wrong, I went through the same thing, only it was my mom who told me to get over it. It's very painful when the ones we love say things like that
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ragitty
by on Feb. 24, 2013 at 10:45 PM

I understand how you feel. Dh tends to get really defensive when I bring up the baby. On our due date he got mad at me for being upset. I said something like "you do realize today was the due date" and he got mad saying I was accusing him of not caring. It's gotten better recently, though

MommaMruz
by on Feb. 25, 2013 at 12:02 AM

I would be hurt too. We would have been due in may and I hate thinking about it. I think about where we should be right now with getting ready for baby's arrival. We have an 11 year old daughter that took the miscarriage really hard so I feel like my husband and I try to keep it together for her. I hope you have luck in the future and are able to expand your family:). 

ZennMomma
by on Feb. 25, 2013 at 1:32 PM

Thats not crazy. I'm glad he apologised. My husband gets the same way after a while, he doesnt want to talk about it anymore, while I dont bottle my feelings I just let him know I am sad about baby stuff and journal or try another outlet.

Men hurt too, they just do it differently.

EAzizM
by Erica on Feb. 25, 2013 at 1:34 PM
I would definitely be hurt...and id punch him in the nads. How insensitive. Hugs. I was just telling Dh that i would be 22 weeks and we would know the sex of the baby had i not miscarried.
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