How do I help my best friend?
At first, as expected, there was support and words of kindness and prayer (she is, as am I, very religious, which has helped her tremendously). Now that her memorial is over and everyone else seems to be moving on and I guess hoping she will too, I feel like this is when she'll need me most. She's a very private person (I am too but I think that's why our friendship works so well) so I've been trying to give her her space but I don't know if that's the right thing. It feels moot and insignificant to ask her how she's feeling when I know she's devastated. Should I still be avoiding talking about because I don't want to upset her or should I directly ask her if she wants to talk about it? It's a helpless feeling I have. I wish I could take the pain away and I feel inactive and I just want to help her heal if its possible.
Thank you all very much. I feel like its what any friends should do for eachother but I'm seeing that most are just too uncomfortable to dive in to help. I like the idea of doing little things to show her that someone else is thinking about and remembering her daughter just like she is. I'm so sorry that all of you have had to endure this breed of pain I've now witnessed up close.