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Army

Posted by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:48 PM
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I joined the army in March of 2008 and got pregnant from April 2009 until July 2009. In July I was hospitalized with a brain infection that I got overseas. I was diagnosed with Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome. I had a stroke, two blood clots, kidney failure, a tracheotomy, 4 chest tubes, 2 seizures and a brain infection that made me septic. 1 year later from the time I finally got out I got pregnant again...and I lost it again. I feel like I've already been through hell (by the way I also have Avascular Necrosis of the right hip)...I just feel like I've let the Army take so much of my life and I feel so lost knowing that I've lost two babies. It hurts even though its been almost 3 years since the last one. Don't know what to do.
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Zealand2008
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 12:23 AM
Wow sounds like you are lucky to be alive. Do they know what caused the second miscarriage?
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Krisy25
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 12:28 AM
They really don't know. That's what's frustrating. The people that know about the miscarriage seem to think my body wasn't ready yet, which makes perfect sense...


Quoting Zealand2008:

Wow sounds like you are lucky to be alive. Do they know what caused the second miscarriage?

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Zealand2008
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 12:29 AM
That would make sense I guess. Not that it makes it any less frustrating and sad. So if I understand correctly you had 2 miscarriages and the last one was 3 years ago? Have you been TTC since then?


Quoting Krisy25:

They really don't know. That's what's frustrating. The people that know about the miscarriage seem to think my body wasn't ready yet, which makes perfect sense...




Quoting Zealand2008:

Wow sounds like you are lucky to be alive. Do they know what caused the second miscarriage?


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Krisy25
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 12:51 AM
No we haven't. I want to have one but know I can't right now (plus my husband WILL NOT do it). A girlfriend of mine got pregnant two months after me and she has a beautiful two year old. I know it's dumb but I am honestly jealous. I wouldn't be had I not been through what I've been through. I have no one to talk to about this stuff to.


Quoting Zealand2008:

That would make sense I guess. Not that it makes it any less frustrating and sad. So if I understand correctly you had 2 miscarriages and the last one was 3 years ago? Have you been TTC since then?




Quoting Krisy25:

They really don't know. That's what's frustrating. The people that know about the miscarriage seem to think my body wasn't ready yet, which makes perfect sense...






Quoting Zealand2008:

Wow sounds like you are lucky to be alive. Do they know what caused the second miscarriage?



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OkWolfe
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 1:44 AM
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This is a wonderful group of very supportive people. We are here anytime you need us.
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Angela4boys
by Angela on Apr. 4, 2013 at 7:08 AM

I feel the same way about the state of Arizona (sorry to the ladies that live there).  I got a fungal infection from a spore in the native soil, became extremely sick, and my baby died at 16 weeks.  Since then I moved, have lost two more babies, and still have to deal with this stupid lifelong illness I got while living there.  All the what ifs go through my head, and things I wished I had done differently (like move earlier!). 

I'm very sorry for all you have been though (((hugs)))

momofcrazypants
by Leslie on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:28 AM

Wow. You've been through so much. What a story! I'm glad you are here with us in this group. It's an excellent place to come and vent. And believe me, we all do from time to time. It's not dumb at all to look at children that are the same ages that your baby would have been and feel twinges of jealousy. I think that happens to all of us. You already sound like you've been through hell and back. Are you still on active duty now? What about your husband, are you guys wanting to ttc yet or wait a little longer. How is your health now? I'm sorry for both of your losses too. (hugs)

blessedmommie07
by Desiree on Apr. 4, 2013 at 1:27 PM

*hugs*  I'm so sorry for your losses.  Have you tried to find a really good doctor/specialist to help you?  I'm sorry you got infected while overseas.  I remember my husband coming back from deployment and was sick for the first 4 to 6 months while his body was trying to get all the gunk he injested over there out and through his system. 

Also I kind of don't like or trust some Army doctors, they really messed me up and caused a trauma to my 2nd son when he was born then tried to cover it up.  It is hard, believe me not to blame them for either incompetency or just going there to that hospital.  I'm glad you found this group to vent to.

Happy_Mcboobs
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 3:27 PM

holy moly?! How did you get a fungal infection from soil? Ok, so you lived there---you were gardening?? What a random thing to have happen?? maybe? That is so scary....but to think that sort of thing causes harm to our babies more than we think.....a mom local said that she picked up an infection from a public pool she went too with her older kids and that is what killed her unborn baby! It freaked me out--because I was trying to figure out why my baby was lost and I was like--I go to the Y & the Wellness center for water aerobics---eww....I was being so careful I thought....and yet....of course, you just dont' ever really know which makes it all the more harder! :( 


Quoting Angela4boys:

I feel the same way about the state of Arizona (sorry to the ladies that live there).  I got a fungal infection from a spore in the native soil, became extremely sick, and my baby died at 16 weeks.  Since then I moved, have lost two more babies, and still have to deal with this stupid lifelong illness I got while living there.  All the what ifs go through my head, and things I wished I had done differently (like move earlier!). 

I'm very sorry for all you have been though (((hugs)))



Happy_Mcboobs
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 3:29 PM

Good luck! You are a very strong person to endure all that and stlll be ttc. I respect you for that! I almost died with my loss---I hemmorraged & had a seizure in my husband's arms---and that makes me so afraid to hope for a rainbow baby!! :( 

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