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its been 4 months.

Posted by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 5:27 PM
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It has been almost 4 months since I lost our first boy at 15 weeks. Im still grieving, but have "cometo terms with it/accepted it " Almost 2 months after we lost Jackson i got his name across heart, because thats where he will always be.

on my birth day (march 15) I took a pregnancy test becUse I hadnt gotten my period yet. And it was positve :) I made a dr appoint immeadiatly. And discussed all of my fears and how worried I am. And explained to her everything that happened in december. Jow my thyroid wasnt under co trol andeverything. And she was so nice. I told her that I wanted to be seen biweekly because of being high risk, because I dont feel I can emotionally handle losing another baby because of a drs neglagance to follow my health issues. And she completly understaning.
Is it normal to be.. anxious and worried with everythingi do in this pergnancy? Or is it normal?
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busyizzybsmom
by Gold Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 5:35 PM

It is TOTALLY NORMAL to be worried the entire pregnancy! Completely normal. I checked the toilet paper for spotting every stinkin' time I went to the bathroom throughout my pregnancy with my rainbow baby. I was scared every time I went to check for the heartbeat until I could feel him moving regularly. 

Sounds like you have a great doctor who is willing to listen to your concers and monitor your physical as well as emotional well being during this pregnancy. Congratulations and I hope you have a healthy 9 months with as little stress as possible!

Nicole050411
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 5:49 PM
Hats 3xactly what I do. I look at the tp everytime I pee to see if there is spotting and I got an ultrasound done last week t see how far I am and seeing it flicker was such a relief. I just keep hwving these awful flashbacks of not hearing or seeing the heart beat. Yaknow.?


Quoting busyizzybsmom:It is TOTALLY NORMAL to be worried the entire pregnancy! Completely normal. I checked the toilet paper for spotting every stinkin' time I went to the bathroom throughout my pregnancy with my rainbow baby. I was scared every time I went to check for the heartbeat until I could feel him moving regularly. Sounds like you have a great doctor who is willing to listen to your concers and monitor your physical as well as emotional well being during this pregnancy. Congratulations and I hope you have a healthy 9 months with as little stress as possible!
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Nicole050411
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 5:51 PM
I go in next monday for the physical andeverything. Ill be 10 weeks.
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busyizzybsmom
by Gold Member on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:10 PM

Yep. It was really helpful for me to go and have my first ultrasound somewhere other than my OB's office (where I found out that our baby had died, via ultrasound!) because I didn't have all the extra freak out emotions attached with an already freaky time. So yes, that first heartbeat was awesome! Such a huge relief! Do you have a doppler? That helped me a lot too. Every day that we made it was such a relief and blessing!

Quoting Nicole050411:

Hats 3xactly what I do. I look at the tp everytime I pee to see if there is spotting and I got an ultrasound done last week t see how far I am and seeing it flicker was such a relief. I just keep hwving these awful flashbacks of not hearing or seeing the heart beat. Yaknow.?

Happy_Mcboobs
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:11 PM

Congratulations! 
I would think it's normal to be afraid the entire pregnancy which scares me so much! I am still waiting on my rainbow---not actively trying yet....I want my summer rainbow! :)  

TTCAMIRACLE31
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:25 PM

Congrats Wonderful News ;)

mama91605
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:28 PM
Congrats. I think it is very normal. I lost a baby last yr and am 10 wks right now. I have seen baby 3 time and all is going great. I am still scarred. I am seeing my doc every other week as well because she thinks I have a condition call ashermans syndrom (scarring in the uterus) due to my dnc. I don't know when I will stop being so nervous. I am so sorry for your loss and wish you the best.
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momofcrazypants
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 6:37 PM

Congrats!! Wonderful news! I think it's completely normal to be worried.

Nicole050411
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 7:13 PM
I was living in north carolina when we lost Jackson. And we were military.. and the ob there was so dumb. She couldnt find the heart beat, and I asked if I should be worried or concerned, and she said absolutly not. Then they did ultrasound and thats how we knew. I was soo anfry at that ob fir giving me false hope you know? Like she said oh no, your baby is fine I jusck at finding the heart beat sometimes. Really?

I live in Iowa now, and they are soooo much better than any military dr that I have ever seen.
Where do you buy your own doppler? I would love to hear the baby when3ver I wanted.


Quoting busyizzybsmom:

Yep. It was really helpful for me to go and have my first ultrasound somewhere other than my OB's office (where I found out that our baby had died, via ultrasound!) because I didn't have all the extra freak out emotions attached with an already freaky time. So yes, that first heartbeat was awesome! Such a huge relief! Do you have a doppler? That helped me a lot too. Every day that we made it was such a relief and blessing!

Quoting Nicole050411:

Hats 3xactly what I do. I look at the tp everytime I pee to see if there is spotting and I got an ultrasound done last week t see how far I am and seeing it flicker was such a relief. I just keep hwving these awful flashbacks of not hearing or seeing the heart beat. Yaknow.?


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Nicole050411
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 7:49 PM
Im 9 week. :) due november 9. When are you due? Congratulations. Thatsawful about the scaring. I didnt have a dnc. I just waitied and did everything naturally. Which landed me in the hospital with a 50/50% chance cuz theplacenta was stuck so my body was just pouring out blood.


Quoting mama91605:

Congrats. I think it is very normal. I lost a baby last yr and am 10 wks right now. I have seen baby 3 time and all is going great. I am still scarred. I am seeing my doc every other week as well because she thinks I have a condition call ashermans syndrom (scarring in the uterus) due to my dnc. I don't know when I will stop being so nervous. I am so sorry for your loss and wish you the best.

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