Do you have a good relationship with your mom? Was she there for you during your loss?
My mom was pretty decent for my loss. But she keptpesting me to visit and help with bible school right after and I didn't feel like leaving. Now my mil was awful. She kept asking me about why I didn't get a d&c and told my dh that he wasn't mentally ready to be a dad anyway.
My mom is a rock. She was there for me the whole way through my cerclage surgery to try and prevent what became the delivery of my first angel. She was there through the delivery and she stayed and held my baby (when I couldn't). She has been with me through every loss since. She works in the nursey of a hospital (and prior to tha she as a labor and deliery nurse) so she helped with the nurses and knew what was going on. I am so blessed to have my mom as my mom. I know that many women are not as lucky to have a supportive mom.
I don't think it sounds harsh. I have a great relationship with my mother, but not my father. I have cut off all ties to him because he isn't good for me or my family.
Quoting Herlache:I had a good relationship with her until my loss. I was crying for my baby and she told me I was being a bad mom to my dd because I was crying for something that wasn't real! Then she called the cops saying I was suicideal so they put me in a mental hospital for the 72 hr hold. I was not suicideal I was grieving my baby that was real. Even the shrinks said it was normal to cry. I think if she would have just left me alone for awhile after getting out I would have just let it go but then she threatened to sue me for custody of dd. So I refuse to have anything to do with her. It may sound harsh but my family comes first.
Yes, I have a very good relationship with her. She was there during my loss and helped me quite a bit.
Kind of yes, we are pretty close. But with my loss she almost acted like she was hurting more than be so I withdrawled from her a bit when I was going through lossing my daughter. I was sick of it being all about her.
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