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3rd miscarriage

Posted by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 5:40 PM
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Hi, I am new in here, I was trying to find some information on the internet about next step after 3 m/c. I am going through 3rd one right now and I am an emotional wreck :( I feel like it`s not gonna happen for me and I will never be a mom.. One thing that  gets me thru it is that finally I will see RE and maybe they will find an issue. I don`t think it is just a bad luck. I am actually afriad that I can`t try and handle it one more time. 

Anybody been in this situation and had a helthy baby? what would be my next step with re? 

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Amigajen
by Jen on Jul. 24, 2013 at 7:17 PM

So sorry for your 3 losses...  I had two of them back to back this year, it's a pain like no other..  I had lots of testing done and saw a endocrinologist as well, mine turned out to be related to thyroid problems.  I hope you get some answers soon.!  Hugs.

Mommabear81312
by Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:15 PM

I had 3 losses before i had my daughter she will be 1 next month. Keep your chin up :) i have pcos :(


blessedmommie07
by Desiree-admin on Jul. 25, 2013 at 1:33 AM
I'm sorry for your losses. I would request them to do tests on anything they can think of to make sure nothing is out of wack. I hope you can get answers and get it resolved so you can get a rainbow soon.
yorkiemaz
by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 6:58 AM

aww hun. so sorry for your losses... hugs

Cal2006
by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 9:10 AM

 I am so sorry for your losses.

I have had four. I started going to the fertility doctor after my second loss (my OB didn't want me to, but I said I'm going anyways). He ran a lot of tests on me and came up with a lot of possible reasons. After my third loss, we ran even more tests and determine that I have a blood disorder too. 

In my opinion the next step...or at least for me the next step was testing.  Once they start testing they can rule out some things and focus in on others. It might be a simple progestrone level fix. That is what we started out thinking my problem was...then we discovered the blood disorder.

Fear: my advice is this site. I am scared that I'm never going to be a mommy. That I'll be here next year saying that I'm a mommy of 5 or 6 angels... I will probably think that until I hold a rainbow of my own. But I know that this is a safe place to have that fear. So that most of the day, I can think positive thoughts, I can feel hopeful and be optimistic. This is a safe place for hopes and fears (both rational and irrational). I don't think that any pregnancy after a loss (or multiple losses) will ever be worry-free in the future. Sorry, but at least you have support.

I am so very sorry for your losses. feel free to message me if you have questions that you think I might be able to help with.

momofcrazypants
by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 10:05 AM

I'm so sorry for all of your losses. There's so many things they can test for, it's hard to determine where to start. Does your RE have any recommendations? Are you seeing a fertility specialist? That may be another good place to start.

basia8703
by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 12:30 PM

I scheduled dnc for tomorrow and the dr said he will take a tissues to do some genetic testing. and we will go from there. whatever they can do in the office, they will. if I will need more test they will send me to RE.

I am so afraid. It`s not the progesterone, my levels were perfect, even when hcg stoped rising, it was still 17 and a week earlier 47! So I know that`s not the issue. I am just really afraid that it will be something chromosonal and then what? Is there anything that can be done with that? 

It hit me yesterday that this is not just a bad luck, that I have a problem and I am emotionaly devastated. I don`t think that I ever felt that bad. I can`t imagine me going thru full pregnancy, beign in 25 or 35 week and feel the baby kicking. i had big hopes before this pregnancy that I will be a mommy but now the only thing i can think of is that never gonna happen.

Cal2006
by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 1:13 PM

 My last pregnancy loss was due to trisomy 15 which they say is incompatiable with life. Afterwards my husband and I both did a test to ensure that we only had two sets of each chromosome. We were fine. I believe that if they had determined there was an issue, then they would have sent us to a geneticist (sp?). That way they could determine the odds of certain genes/chromosomes being passed along to the baby.

I imagine that the process would be the same for you and your husband. If there is something genetically wrong with the baby, then you'll both be tested. If it comes back that there is nothing wrong with you and hubby, then they'll chalk it up to bad luck. If there is something abnormal about you or your husband, then you would see the genetics specialist to see what the odds of you passing that along to your child would be.

My mother and I were thinking (before we got the results back that DH and I were OK) that we might do IVF to have the babies chromosomes checked before they were put in me. IVF is is expensive, and my fertility doctor told me that since everything came back OK and IUI's have worked in the past...that we didn't need to go down the IVF path yet. But I think that it would still be a viable option to have a baby, even if you do have issues with your chromosomes or genetics in some way.

Don't lose hope...lots of women on here have rainbows or are pregnant with them. I hope to count myself among them one day..until then, they give me hope that it can be done.

Quoting basia8703:

I scheduled dnc for tomorrow and the dr said he will take a tissues to do some genetic testing. and we will go from there. whatever they can do in the office, they will. if I will need more test they will send me to RE.

I am so afraid. It`s not the progesterone, my levels were perfect, even when hcg stoped rising, it was still 17 and a week earlier 47! So I know that`s not the issue. I am just really afraid that it will be something chromosonal and then what? Is there anything that can be done with that? 

It hit me yesterday that this is not just a bad luck, that I have a problem and I am emotionaly devastated. I don`t think that I ever felt that bad. I can`t imagine me going thru full pregnancy, beign in 25 or 35 week and feel the baby kicking. i had big hopes before this pregnancy that I will be a mommy but now the only thing i can think of is that never gonna happen.

 

basia8703
by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 2:06 PM
I think that this is the only thing that makes me stop crying. That we live in the age where almost everything is possible and everything can happen with help of the science.
I wish you the best!! Loosing pregnancy is the worst thing that can happen to a woman:(
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