Since we discovered he no longer had a heartbeat, my daughter has made it seem like its no big deal. She had told me that she was sad that he died but that's it when it comes to expressing real emotions. But then she has told me things like "next time we should have 2 babies, that way when one dies, we still have another". Last night she was in my room, holding the bear they gave me at the hospital and she was a little teary eyed. She told me she was singing a song to the bear and it made her sad because she missed her brother. Anytime I try to talk to her about what happened, she changes the subject. I've told her many times that me or my husband can talk about her brother or answer any questions she might have.
For those of you with older kids, how did they deal with the loss? How did you help them?