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Life after miscarriage, car accident and pulmonary embolism

Posted by on Dec. 16, 2013 at 12:45 PM
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My husband and I tried to get pregnant for 1-1/2 years. We did everthing we could. We did Provera to make me get a period, I took Clomid, I took my temperature daily, etc, etc. Month after month it was a disappointment after the next.... another negative test. We had just bought a house so I said I was done with the pills, I was done taking my temperature... and it was that cycle that I got pregnant! We were so happy. A few days before we were going in for our 8 week ultrasound, I noticed my pregnancy symptoms were starting to fade. I didn't think much of it at the time. We got to see our little angel on the monitor, we saw the heartbeat... we saw he/she moving around. But the doctor's face wasn't reassuring. He said our baby was only measuring 6 weeks and had a heartrate of 77 bpm. They scheduled me for a follow-up ultrasound the next week.

We had our followup ultrasound and we were told our baby no longer had a heartbeat. We were devastated. I tried to hold it together, I just wanted to get home so I could cry my eyes out. I elected to do the cytotec. We then headed home. My husband and I were in different vehicles and had gone separate ways home. I was talking to my mom on the phone about the miscarriage when out of nowhere, a vehicle made a U-turn in the road when I was going about 55 mph and hit the front end of my car. My car went spinning out of control, hit the brim of the road and rolled three times over an embankment landing the opposite way I was traveling on the roof. This accident occured 2 hours after I found out I lost my baby. I was taken to the emergency room by ambulance.  I suffered pulmonary contusions and abdominal hematomas and was having major contractions and heavy bleeding from the Cytotec too. Everyone thought it was a miracle that I walked away with minor injuries, even the ambulance driver couldn't believe it. My husband kissed my forehead when I got out of the ambulance and said our baby kept me safe. Everyone kept talking about the accident, how it occured, my injuries, etc... and I just wanted to scream above them all that I lost a baby that day too.

We had plans to try again as soon as we could. As soon as I was healed from the accident and began my periods again. But fate had yet another twist for me. I woke up one day with horrible chest/back pain. I was coughing up blood. Every breath felt like a stab of a knife. My co-workers made me go to the ER and to my surprise due to the contusions of my lung, I also had suffered a pulmonary embolism and infarction (basically a blood clot that cut off the blood supply to my lung and caused a section of my lung to die). I was admitted for 5 days and had to start on a minimum of 6 months of Coumadin, this drug can cause devastating birth defects so I cannot get pregnant during this time.

Three more months left of Coumadin, I am praying so anyway. Since my clot was caused by an injury I should be able to get off the Coumadin in March. I'm praying for a normal d-dimer and CAT scan at that time. I am praying that I can try to have another baby then. In the meantime, I'm just trying to stay strong.

 

by on Dec. 16, 2013 at 12:45 PM
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lovebugs_mom906
by Lisa on Dec. 16, 2013 at 1:07 PM
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Oh goodness, you had a lot happen in a very short amount of time. I'm so sorry for your loss, and everything that took place afterwards. I really hope your about done with the Coumadin, and don't have to worry about any of that anymore.
mommyofnoah208
by on Dec. 16, 2013 at 1:11 PM
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I am very sorry. thinking of you

Alaskanelf
by Member on Dec. 16, 2013 at 1:14 PM
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Big hugs!  I am sorry about the loss of your child.   I hope like you that you are able to get off the meds soon and try again soon!   

NLTenney
by on Dec. 16, 2013 at 2:20 PM
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Oh my goodness. My heart just breaks for you, hun. I'll be sending prayers.

busyizzybsmom
by Betsy on Dec. 16, 2013 at 5:10 PM
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Wow, what a crazy and horrible series of events. :( I'm so sorry! Why do you have to be on Coumadin though - why can't you go on heparin or enoxaparin for the duration of the six months so that you can begin TTC?
CaptNumo9
by on Dec. 16, 2013 at 5:42 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Such a great loss with so many things happening in the midst of it. Hugs to you sweet one. It is a good thing your body is healing, and I know these months will be hard. Here is an article that I found that might be of help as you continue to process what you have been through: http://bit.ly/199refD.

Blessings!

booden
by on Dec. 17, 2013 at 8:00 AM

 

Quoting busyizzybsmom: Wow, what a crazy and horrible series of events. :( I'm so sorry! Why do you have to be on Coumadin though - why can't you go on heparin or enoxaparin for the duration of the six months so that you can begin TTC?

 My doctor's won't let me do another med. I tried to get them to let me do Lovenox injections but they told me after a pulmonary embolism you have to do a minimum of 6 months of Coumadin - no exceptions. I'm trying to come to terms with that because my clot was in the bottom lobe of my lung and it's still healing and still hurts. A pregnancy and everything getting tight quarters in there probably wouldn't be good for my healing lung. I took my first Coumadin September 12th so March 12th I'm having my doctor's schedule all my follow-up tests and labwork ;) Believe me I have expressed my eagerness excessively to my doctor's to be off Coumadin. Along with the pregnancy loss, the hardest part of it all is due to someone's carelessness I have to wait to try again. I feel like he stole that from me, but he gets to go on with his life as if nothing happened.

Thank you everyone for your kind words. It certainly has been a hard time of my husband and I.

busyizzybsmom
by Betsy on Dec. 17, 2013 at 4:12 PM
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Gotcha. We have a genetic issue in my family that has my dad on xarelto for life and me on lovenox during pregnancy, but we haven't ever dealt with a PE (praise God) so I didn't realize that there was only the one method for post PE treatment. That is a bummer. And I definitely understand your frustration with that guy having stolen 6 months of being able to try for another baby. :( I hope the next few months go by quickly for you and you are able to get pregnant quickly after you begin trying!

Quoting booden:

 My doctor's won't let me do another med. I tried to get them to let me do Lovenox injections but they told me after a pulmonary embolism you have to do a minimum of 6 months of Coumadin - no exceptions. I'm trying to come to terms with that because my clot was in the bottom lobe of my lung and it's still healing and still hurts. A pregnancy and everything getting tight quarters in there probably wouldn't be good for my healing lung. I took my first Coumadin September 12th so March 12th I'm having my doctor's schedule all my follow-up tests and labwork ;) Believe me I have expressed my eagerness excessively to my doctor's to be off Coumadin. Along with the pregnancy loss, the hardest part of it all is due to someone's carelessness I have to wait to try again. I feel like he stole that from me, but he gets to go on with his life as if nothing happened.

Thank you everyone for your kind words. It certainly has been a hard time of my husband and I.


.sp4rkl3z.
by Bronze Member on Dec. 17, 2013 at 6:22 PM
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This was so intense to read. I'm so sorry about these things that happened to you but wishing you all the luck in the world for a speedy recovery so you can try again
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blessedmommie07
by Desiree on Dec. 17, 2013 at 8:59 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss.  You definitely had a guardian angel looking out for you that day.  *hugs*

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