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What do you expect them to say?

Posted by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 5:24 PM
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So I posted that willy wonka picture on my Facebook page and people were generally curious what to say to parents who are grieving who haven't ever experienced losing a child.


What do you think they should say to you?

How can they comfort you?
by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 5:24 PM
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mommyofnoah208
by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 5:28 PM
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I think its best to keep it simple. Just say "I am so very sorry for your loss and that you are here to help with anything"
Aujonfire
by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 5:29 PM
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What picture?

mylilprincesses
by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 5:33 PM
Here it is

http://mobile.cafemom.com/group/110162/forums/read/19598207/How_true_it_is


Quoting Aujonfire:

What picture?

Aujonfire
by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 5:36 PM
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I would never say that, yikes. Whoever would is a jerk. I would say something like "I'm so sorry for your loss, I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Please tell me if there's anything I can do to help."

Quoting mylilprincesses: Here it is

http://mobile.cafemom.com/group/110162/forums/read/19598207/How_true_it_is


Quoting Aujonfire:

What picture?


stcy79
by Stacey on Feb. 5, 2014 at 5:44 PM
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Yes i agree, Im sorry is better to me than,its for a reason, God has a plan doesnt help coming from another, maybe something was wrong with the baby, bla,bla,bla.......

Our angel was born to heaven on 1/10/2014 at 14wks 3days.

CDW75
by Candi on Feb. 5, 2014 at 6:27 PM
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I agree...keep it simple. "I'm sorry" is enough.

One of the few friends I told I was miscarrying said, "I hope you feel good tomorrow." WHAT?!!

I know it's hard to know what to say, but "I'm sorry" is usually enough.

After going through all I've gone through w/my oldest DD & her cancer, I also do not want some one to say they are praying for me/her/us unless they REALLY are. I think people say that because it's what they think they should say.
lovebugs_mom906
by Lisa on Feb. 5, 2014 at 6:35 PM
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I think people feel like they need to say something, so they say stupid things. A simple "I'm sorry, I'm here for you" is all that is needed. Unless someone's been through a loss themselves, anything added to that is probably going to come out wrong.
Angela4boys
by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 7:46 PM
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I'm bringing you dinner...
sjenkins8208
by Member on Feb. 5, 2014 at 7:47 PM
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Just say sorry!
Dani03060913
by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 7:54 PM
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I agree I'm sorry is all it takes. I was told after my miscarriage that I wasn't meant to have another baby and at least she still had her daughters baby to look forward to. It's gods plan it's better this way. Get over it it's not all about you. Things like that hurt. They just don't seem to understand
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