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Frustrated this morning

Posted by on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:32 AM
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 Yesterday I was pretty happy. I took my kids out for the day, was able to walk around with my heavy diaper bag, push the stroller around, etc. without pain and almost not bleeding at all, all day and night.

This morning I woke up to cramping and used the bathroom and here we go again with the pain and the blood, a full week after the D&C that was supposed to make it stop.

Then I heard my 3 year old crying in her room. She said she had to use the bathroom, so I escorted her. She pooped in her panties, and got it all over the carpet, the tile, the toilet, herself, and somehow even the wall! (She was absolutely 100% potty trained and for the past 3 days for some reason she's been pooping in her panties.) So I had to clean all of that up, already upset that I'm cramping and bleeding AGAIN.

My 1 year old is a handful, which is a different story for a different time, but definitely not helping my morning.

I was such a bad mom this morning. I really was. I shamed my 3 year old. I handled that situation totally wrong.

I really need to pull it together. DH is working overtime today 12-9 and I gotta be a good mom to these kids. I'm just feeling really overwhelmed this morning and confused and frustrated.

I just want this miscarriage to be over and for some reason it just wants to drag on and on and on and on............

by on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:32 AM
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Angela4boys
by Angela on Aug. 29, 2014 at 9:00 AM
Don't beat yourself up, you're human. How about just apologizing to your 3 year old for saying things that were unkind, and let her know you love her...and move on with that. (((Hugs)))

After my first loss I had a D&E...they told me I would bleed just a couple days...I bled 26 days, stopped for 4, then had a heavy 8 day period, lol! After that things were much more normal though. Things will balance out in that department, and you can just deal with the matters of the heart.

Hang in there, you're not a bad mama, you're a human.
lovebugs_mom906
by Lisa on Aug. 29, 2014 at 9:32 AM

The bad momma thing happens to all of us. Don't beat yourself up over it. The great thing about kids is that the forgive quickly, forget almost immediatly, and continue to love - even when we feel we don't deserve it. Like Angela said, apologize and just move on. I'm sure she already has :-)

I've never had a D&C, so I'm not sure what to expect there. I do know though, that after any kind of trauma to our bodies, it takes a while to heal. Just because you feel good doesn't mean that your insides are back to normal. Take it easy, and you'll be 100% in no time.

I'm sorry your morning was so rough. I hope the rest of the day gets better.

Kbarrette
by Kasha on Aug. 29, 2014 at 9:45 AM
Yes, don't worry about it!! Kids are resilient. Every mom has some bad mom moments... you wouldn't be human if you didn't. Cut yourself some slack, forgive yourself, take a deep breathe and try again. That's the best you can do!

Love and prayers to you!!
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by Desiree on Aug. 29, 2014 at 10:27 AM

 *hugs*  I'm sorry your that your bleeding again.  That is frustrating.

As for pooping that is always are hard one in potty training.  Maybe she is regressing?  *hugs*

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by Platinum Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 10:36 AM
Hugs. Kids are well... Mysterious little aliens that only look human. Poop everywhere lol, laugh it off that's all you can do now! You are a good mommy, you are allowed to have a bad day
Angela4boys
by Angela on Aug. 29, 2014 at 10:51 AM
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Poop on the wall? Snap a picture for her wedding slide show :) Pablo Poopcaso ;)
akrogers13
by Bronze Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 11:00 AM
bad mom? Oh heck no! A bad mom wouldn't think twice about shaming their child and here you are with guilt! You are a great mom.. we all have our moments tho! Trust me, I have plenty. But the good thing is that we can go back and apologize and be an example for our children that when we make mistakes, we make it better. I'm sorry you are having a rough time! I hope things start looking a little brighter for you!
KarenM42
by Bronze Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 7:21 PM
Going through a mc is hell. Add kids to the mix and it's even worse. As the other moms have said, you are not a bad mom! You are doing the best you can with a horrible situation. A mc is definitely a roller coaster ride and one that sucks. It's been 3 months since my mc and I'm physically still dealing with the aftermath. Hang in there. Hoping your bleeding stops soon. And hoping your little sweetheart stops pooping in her panties. Look on the bright side: I'm willing to bet you have a pretty clean bathroom today!
echupko
by Group Mod-Elizabeth on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:54 PM
You are definitely not a bad mom! You are human!!! Praying for you. Hugs
echupko
by Group Mod-Elizabeth on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:57 PM
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And if it makes you feel any better my 3 yr old somehow missed the toilet pooping yesterday. It was all over the seat, the floor, the wall. It was gross. And I took a pic and sent it to my dh. He wasn't home and I thought he needed to see what I had to deal with! Lol
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