We are a GREEN MINDED group, so in the interest of supporting ecofriendly products we support, in a 100% NOT FOR PROFIT of the group management way, small homemade and handcrafted businesses. Please be aware of this facet of the group if you are a member or when joining

From Our Homes To Yours

Visit our sister group congo & help support prizes in the group's games and contests!
100% of management surplus after overhead comes back to group members in prizes!

If you've been around Cafemom for a bit you probably have noted that there is a lot of drama, deception and just plan meanness going around. This group is meant to be a safe place away from that where moms can avoid that hostility and just be comfortable. These rules are meant to ensure that you can post here without fear of bashing, being put down or being made to feel inadequate, silly or stupid. To achieve that we've found we need to have some pretty clear rules.

SPAM policy-  
(the definition of spam is posting or messaging groups or private e-mail or message boxes with indiscriminate, unsolicited messages of a promotional nature)

Simply put the policy is NO SPAM

However wahms may post their items. If this become a problem we'll create a thread for wahms to post their items in monthly or something like that. There is also a special sticky post for wahms- ~WAHM Ads Here~. That is the place for permanent wahm ads for those that makes cloth diapers or other wahm made products.

Another however is you may post used diapers you are selling or free for shipping.

All other products: You may post about your items/interests in response to another post as long as you follow all other group rules. You may not post a thread for the purpose of promoting or promote heavily in a thread you post. The only exceptions being that you may also post free giveaways & contest promotions; or, if you are posting with permision from an admin or myself. You may not post about groups whose purpose is to promote products, jobs or companies. Please do not post about groups or blogs unless you have cleared permission with an admin or myself.

JUDGING, BASHING, NAME CALLING policy- 
This policy is pretty straight forward. None of the above is allowed.

This includes no remarks against, or easily misinterpreted as being against, any particular religion-. You can say something like you disagree with mass religion in general & other equally general remarks. Just nothing where you are naming or alluding to a specific religion or faith.

Please do keep in mind that simply not agreeing with someone is not bashing or judging. Nor is stating an opposing viewpoint when conversing with another poster.

If you post in a conversation assume that some will disagree with you. If it is going to upset you to be disagreed with then please do not participate in that conversation. The point of this group is discussion. It is not a fair discussion if only those who agree can participate.

Please also note that the term ma'am is not name calling. It is a term of respect. If another poster says ma'am to you assume they are trying to convey that they still respect you and your opinion, even if they disagree with it.

DRAMA policy-
You may not post a thread that is bashing another member of this group. You may vent about other cafemom members/groups- although not by name and not members of this group.

You MAY post about any topic you want to talk about (as long as it's within the other group policy guidelines). This is a SAFE group. All discussions are welcome here.

If you are going to become upset about being disagreed with or about reading or discussing a certain topic then it is your responsibility not to participate in those topics. I will not punish the whole group by making certain topics taboo just because some members dislike them. That does not make since to me.

You may not post about why you are leaving the group- this is obvious drama and will result in immediate banning.

You may not post a thread or reply challenging an admin's call on a moderation decision. If you have a question about a specific decision or a question about how the group is run you may only discuss it with an admin or owner through private messaging, not the group's general forum.

NO GRAPHIC VIDEOS OR PICTURES, OR LINKS TO THEM, ABOUT ABORTION ARE ALLOWED TO BE POSTED IN THIS GROUP. The only graphic video or picture content allowed is birthing or breastfeeding videos or pictures- animal rights, abuse, slaughter, farming, ect... video or picture content- or video content of personal injury or illness being discussed in the group.

be courteous-
When posting in this group refrain from using such phrases as (but not limited to) "deal with it" and "get over it" in an offensive wording manner. Even if you are just giving your honest opinion, I have full faith that you can do so in a courteous fashion.

One of the great things about this group is that everyone can post questions, ideas and concerns knowing they will not be made to feel silly, foolish, degraded or offended. Please do your part to keep it that way.

WARNING policy-
When I or a group admin warn someone in the warning there will be instructions that they must read and post understanding in this thread, and that failure to do so within one week of the warning being sent will result in banning.

Every group member gets only one warning per rule. A second infraction results in banning.

BANNING policy-
If I or another admin warns you or asks you to not do something in the group, and your post/reply is in any way 'nasty' or offensive back to us, whether in the forum or in messaging, you will be immediately banned.

If you are reported as breaking the spam policy by messaging one or two members privately or using the invite/friend option to spam you will get one warning. If you are reported again you will be banned from the group. If you are reported as breaking the policy this was by 3 or more members, even without a warning you will be removed from the group.

Banning means that you may no longer post in the group or view the groups posts and you can not rejoin without the permission of the group owner or whichever admin banned you.

If banned you will not necessarily receive a message telling you that you were banned or explaining why, these rules and any prior warning do that.

Please feel free to comment on any of the policies, I welcome input. If you have any questions about the policies, please, don't hesitate to ask.

Guidelines subject to change at group owners discretion.