My Story miscarriage or blighted ovum?

[momma_to_3]

Here is my story.
I had my miscarriage in 2005.
I thought I was pregnant in March of 05,I was several days late and just felt pregnant.but I didn't take the test.This sounds weird but I always have a dream about my babies before I actually take the pregnancy test or before I'm late,well I had a dream about this baby girl.So I pick out the name Hannah Grace.I started my period the same day,had heavy bleeding,and blood clots,I thought I actually miscarried then.Well in April I missed my period,I took the test this time,it was positive.Then,I called my dr,scheduled my first appt.The pregnancy test they did wasn't bright like it should be,but later turn bright.The nurse was talking to me about it,so I told her about what had happened the month before,she said I probably miscarried.Then the dr said no your pregnant,gives me vitamins,and schedules me back in one month.So the whole month I was worried something was wrong.I told my husband that I just didn't feel pregnant that month,like I did the month before.I then go back to the dr,he does a sonogram.He didn't see the baby,said maybe it is still to early.Come back in 2 weeks,that I really am pregnant.So for the next 2 weeks I'm worried,not wanting to get attached to this baby.I finally tell myself that the dr said I was pregnant,started looking at names,and everything.I go back to dr,he does another sonogram,he still doesn't see the baby.Then he tells me to go to the hospital in a few days for a sonogram and blood count ,(my numbers were normal.) or I can wait 1 month then he will do another sonogram.I choose to go to the hospital.The day of my sonogram the tech was so rude,he would not talk to me.It made me so mad,he is doing a vaginal sonogram and wouldn't talk to me.He finally told me he didn't see the baby either,after I asked him a bunch of times.I cried my eyes out,he was then really nice to me,after being so rude.My dr then wants to schedule a d&c in a few days.I wanted to just pass it on my own.He didn't want me too.I kept asking about the blood count(I can't remember what the name of the test was)he said it would go down everyday,that I wasn't pregnant.I had read so much stuff about this in just a few days,some stories where they went on to have a healthy baby,and the dr didn't see the baby for weeks.I was so scaried to have the d&c.The dr kept telling me I wasn't pregnant,so I scheduled the d&c.The day of my d&c we got to the hospital at 8:oo am,it was suppose to be quick,I didn't  get the d&c until 4:00 pm,when they finally came in and said 30 more minutes,I starte dcrying and told my husband I wanted to go home this just does feel right.He told me I had to.I asked my dr about the possible  miscarriage the month before he said that wasn't what happened,this was just that the baby didn't form.I don't understand that,my mom had a miscarriage and he did a sonogram and said the sac was still there,and then did a d&c,what was so different.I didn't know how to get through this no baby but a miscarriage still.How do you grieve for a sac of fluid???no one understands this,they think you should be fine,it wasn't a baby.THINK AGAIN!!!! My baby was due January 6,2006,I started my period that day,my brother got married that day.I conceive my son that month,he was born Oct 11,2006.I still went back to the same dr one time while pregnant with him,I was spotting,and he told me that this pregnancy was going to be the same as the last one.He also told me to take baby aspirin(doesn't that make you bleed more)I didn't take it I got a different dr,and he said my baby was perfect.I carried him full term.I am so glad I whiched drs.I still find myself thinking about the miscarriage now,I think she would be about 20 months now.   
   

[lojemc]

Thanks for your story.  I had a bligthed ovum in May of this year and I agree, it was all very weird - no baby, just a sac of fluid?  Sounded like science fiction to me. I was sad for sure, but then since there wasn't really a baby, I didn't greive a loss really, I was just sad that I wasn't really pregnant.  I too had a procedure to remove it - I wasn't up for waiting around for my body to figure out I wasn't really pregnant.  I was having pregnancy symptoms and thought, no way am I going through this nauseau, hunger, etc. with no pay off.   found out about the blighted ovum on a Tuesday and had the procedure on a Friday.  So, thanks for sharing your story. I don't know many women who have this - and I have a hard time saying I miscarried, becasue in my mind, there was no baby to miscarry.  I just say "the pregnancy didn't work out". 

[ElsaYvette]

i am pregnant with my third child and went to see my dr for the first time last friday and she said that it looked like whatever had started growing stopped. they took blood then and agian this monday and she said that my numbers dropped from 13,000 and some to 9,000 and some and that could only mean that i would miscarry. she said that it was up to me whether i wanted to wait it out or do a d&c. i had another ultra sound done and was told that they could not see a heart rate. i fell no crampy what so ever. but they figure that my baby stopped at 6 1/2 weeks. does any one have some help they can give me. i don't wish to go through with the d&c but my husband doesn't want me to continue on with the pregnancy because he doesn't want me to suffer if i miscarry as the dr is saying. when the ultra sound was done it did show a baby just not that big that why they just figure that the baby dies at 6 1/2 weekswhatever help you can offer is appreciated

Elsa

[momma_to_3]

I'm so sorry your going through this:(
The only thing I can think of is what if the baby is hiding and just small,every baby is different.But,if you feel like the baby has pasted away,it would probably be easier to have the d&c,they put you to sleep you don't feel anything,someone on here said they bled alot when they opted to miscarry on there on,my dr didn't really give me the option.I know it is so scary,you have a million things running through your mind,the what if's.I had my second child at 25 weeks,and I just thought he wasn't going to make it,I wanted to feel him,I wanted to give birth to him,I labored all day got to 7 cm,and he then decided he didn't want to be born.They did a c-section,he weighed 1lb `13ozs,spent 4 1/2 months in the hospital.He is now 3,and doing great.But I know the feeling of wanting some closure if the do not make it,wanting to know you did everything you possible could to help them.With the miscarriage I wanted the  closure,but the dr didn't think it was a good idea for me to pass it on my own.It was so scary not being sure if I was making the right decision,but I am glad now that I didn't pass it on my own.In March of 05,I had a really tough time so I wouldn't recommend that pain..I still believe I miscarried in March and just didn't pass everything,but the dr didn't agree with me..I carried the sac for 10 weeks til June 8,2005.There is no telling how long it would have continued,but I do remember telling my husband after the sonogram that if there was no baby I just wanted the rest of it out of me.Sorry I'm going on and on,and changing back and forth.I wish you the best and I will be praying for you..Please keep me informed on everything....Best of Luck!!!! 

[lojemc]

I was in denial about what was going on with my pregnancy - I was only 5 weeks...I researched like a mad woman.  Even found a website called something like misdiagnosed blighted ovum or something like that.  One person said that because they had a tilted uterus, that perhaps they could see what they needed to see.  But I had to believe what the doctor and NP were telling me - at 5 weeks they had to see a fetal pole or heart beat - they saw nothing and the weird thing is that the sac was measuring at 6 weeks but I knew for a fact it was five weeks because I knew exactly the day we conceived - we only had intercourse once that month.  Anyway, plus my beta levels were not increasing like they were suppose to and I had low progesterone.  So, all the signs were there, I just didn't want to believe it.  In the end, I was glad I had the procedure to remove the sac because I didn't want to wait around for it to happen.  From what I understand, when you have a miscarriage, you still need to see a doctor to make sure everything is out - that you passed all of it, so I figured if they take care of it,  then I won't have to worry about anything.  I can't tell you what to do - but personally, I didn't want to have a bloody mess on my hands when I already have a small child at home.    So, something to consider also.  Good luck and so sorry to hear your news.  It is really hard and the whole thing SUCKS! 

[jemm]

It is hard, I was around 11 weeks when I finally miscarried my anembryonic pregnancy. And I still didn't have any idea of how to cope with it. The best thing I could do was tons of research and find out exactly what was happening, and actually part of my coping was to make this group and to help other women understand what is going on. So many women have NO idea what has happened, many doctors don't even tell you anything about this type of pregnancy.

Talking it over with others who have gone through the same is some of the best "medicine."

Jessica

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