i need some help from someone whos been there

[darejenn05]

i went through my blighted ovum, rough one if you want details message me. but i didnt get a d an c or blood work done doc said it wasnt necessary. he said i would go back to normal cycles at 2-3 months. i have not really gotten back to normal but i am wondering, did any of you have the d and c? i feel stupid i get replies back that make me feel stupid so please if you dont have anyting nice to say dont send me a message i just want someone to talk to about this..........im still confused and i think i just want to talk to someone who has been there to see what they went through

[ainsiesmommy]

Message me and we can talk i have just been thru one

[jemm]

Where were you posting that you got responses back that made you feel stupid?

I know one of the main reasons I started this group was because I didn't feel like women on the other miscarriage groups knew at all what I had gone through, and I saw other signs of that when new posters would mention their anembryonic pregnancy/blighted ovum (even when they didn't know exactly what it was). Because they honestly don't know what it's like.

As for me, I did have the D&C, I had to. I thought I could do it on my own, it started off not so bad, but in the end I was passing out in the shower from such a loss of blood and had to be rushed to the ER.

It does take a while to get back to normal, not just in cycles but in emotions and everything else that goes along with suffering a loss.

Every single one of us (well, almost, I think there were a few friends of and mothers of women) has been through what you've gone through. So I hope you'll be able to find some more women you can connect with who will help support you.

Let me know if you need anything.

Jessica

[melloxyellow]

I did not have a D & C. I miscarried on my own. It was a hard experience and I hate that anyone has to ever go through that. My cycles weren't ever really normal after that. Before the m/c I could tell you exactly when AF was going to arrive, after the blighted ovum, i was always late, it was very frustrating. The whole experience in itself has been traumatizing and an awful exerience. i am sorry for your loss, message me if you would like to talk.

[lasombrs]

I did not have a d&c with either m/c, I did it on my own both times. It took some time with the first one but I had a perfect 26 day cycle after my second m/c. I am very sorry for your loss.

[katewith3]

First off, I am so sorry for your loss.  I too suffered a blighted ovum (found out in August 2008, at 6 1/2 weeks).  Luckily for me no additional trauma was inflicted by dr.s, nurses, physical trauma, etc.  After I found out about the blighted ovum, I was shocked and saddened beyond words.  It was my first pregnancy and you never expect anything like that to happen.  Plus, I had never even heard of a blighted ovum and just thought that all miscarriages happened when the babies died (whereas, with the blighted ovum, all the "stuff" is there but it never actually develops into a baby). 

I thought about it for a week and then decided that letting the miscarriage happen naturally would be too hard on me- weeks of  waiting  and a possible horrible and traumatizing "blood bath" (as others in this site have referred to it).  So I have to say that for me, the D& C was the way to go.  I scheduled it and went in the following week and they put me to sleep under and when I woke up it was all over.  It was a relief.  In addition, I had very very minimal bleeding afterwards.  I just had maybe 2 little tiny pieces of tissue and only maybe a few teaspoons of blood.  But note, that I also was given Misoprotal (spelling?) afterwards, so I took this for 3 days and it caused strong cramping but no blood.  And my Dr. gave me pain medication (I think it was called Norco) for the pain, which I used for 5 days.  But note that I really did consider letting the miscarriage happen on its own because they say that after 2 D&C's you could have a lesser chance of getting pregnant in the future if the doctor who performed your D&C was overly agressive and caused scarring in your uterus.  But this is not common and my doctor said that she was very gentle so the chances of the scarring were very very minimal if any. 

Then I went back on BC pills 3 weeks after my miscarriage.  I still had not gotten my period but wanted some time to grieve this pregnancy before trying again.  And then my period just came back as normal after the 3rd week on the pills.  And I took 3 months of pills (got my period as normal all of those times).   And now I just went off the pills and will try again in a few months.  I am scared too... I am really scared about it happening again but the chances of having another miscarriage (2nd) are pretty much the same as having the first.  It only goes up after you have had 2 miscarriages, so I am optimistic.  Plus, the reason for a blighted ovum is most likely a chromosomal abnormality which your body recognizes is not compatible with life, so it is just natures way of taking course. 

Keep optimistic and know that you have just a good chance as any as having a healthy pregnancy next time.  Oh also, I did read a study that said that it is best to wait 18 months after a miscarriage to improve your chances of not having another one.  But, this is a really long time and I have read lots of other material that states you can try whenever.  But, I do think that it makes sense to give your body time to heal and rest so that the next baby has a good shot at life.  Good Luck to you...

 

[willowbluecrow]

i had a d&c with my first b/o....message me if ya want