My blighted ovum last year i bled for a whole 2 weeks. Im sorry you are going through this...we are all here for support and if u need anything just let us know..
So everything started saturday evening. I started cramping like early labor and then the clots started passing. It started 6:00pm on Saturday and then I went to bed and it started again in the morning for 2 hours sunday. But after that it was over and I am only very lightly bleeding now. So hopefully after this week it will stop. I called the doctor and scheduled a follow up apt for friday. I am getting my energy back slowly and my waist is getting smaller again. Now I have to decide if I want to do this again or give it a year or so. So many decisions to make. Not easy at all.
I had mine in Nov and we decided to just let nature takes its coarse. I am watching when I am fertile and planning around that. I have a tilted Uterus so its a little harder for me to get pregnant. We have only really tried once since Nov. and nothing happened so we are trying next month. If you need to chat just message me!
I am sorry for your loss. No matter how many children you have or if you have had a miscarriage before, something like this is never ever easy, and its hard for people to understand unless they have been through it before. When i found out about my miscarriage, i was 7w4d and spotting so i went to the ER. When I got there and they did the u/s they didnt see a baby, and the blood work showed my hcg levels were about 4-5 weeks, but i was soooo sure on my date. when i got home from the ER i started bleeding heavily, and it stayed that way for a week or so.
I am so sorry for your loss. My situation was very similar. I too had a baby due in july, and I started spotting red the week before christmas. The doc had me come in for tests and discovered my progesterone was low and she gave me a suppliment. After taking it for 2 days my bleeding stopped and I was very releived. I thought things would be fine. Then I went in for an ultrasound on newyears eve. The tech was very nice and was showing me things and then she came to the gestational sac. She said it was measuring at six weeks or so and she couldn't see the baby. I was 11 weeks then and new that for sure so I stared at that empty screen and new my baby had died. My husband was there but he wasn't paying attention and he does not read baby books or look up ultrasounds on the net like I do so he thought things were fine and they just couldn't see anything, after all the tech wasn't worried sounding. So after we got to the door of the hospital we bumped into a lady from our church who was (somewhat ironically) doing greif counceling at the hospital that day. My hubby gushed about the new baby and how excited we were and I just stood there trying not to scream. I explained after she left what the ultrasound meant and cried hysterically all the way home. I started to bleed again more heavily after that, and then light cramping started. It got heavier over the weekend and on Jan. 4 I started to get cramps like early labor. They became contractions and then I passed alot of tissue including the placenta and amniotic sac. I looked for a baby but the sac was empty. The doc later told me that the baby likely died very early on and my body just absorbed it. I understand what you mean about people not understanding your pain. My family was concerned at first but more for my physical wellbeing and they didn't say anything to me about it other than they were sorry and are you physically recovered? My mother did tell me not to have more children for a while. I think people around me other than hubby think I am fine and it wasn't a big deal for me. I didn't cry in front of anyone and I went to the grocery store the day after my miscarriage. Everything I did was fairly normal until the kids went to bed and I was alone or with hubby. I would break down then and he'd have to hold me. Its been almost 3 weeks and I feel better emotionally but I still get caught off guard and cry at the oddest times. I recently chose a name for my baby so I don't think of him or her as an 'it'. It was very comforting to finally choose a name for my child. I am going to buy myself a blue agate cameo of a baby and put an inscription on the back. So I will have a physical reminder, a keepsake of my child. I am so sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through. I understand and if you ever want to talk just message me.
I am so sorry you to are going through this. I know exactly how that feels to have your family not understand. I don't talk to my family much but I am very close to my sisters when I told them they were really upset and told me how sorry they were. They live about 9 hours away so they could not come and visit. But after the initial call they really did not have anything to say about the loss. They just act like everything is normal. My oldest sister says she new something was wrong all along. I don't see how she would know that. My hubby knows I am upset and he is also but he will never see it the way I do. He was not attached yet like I was. I had to change my whole life for this pregnancy and he didn't yet. We watch what we eat, drink, try to get enough sleep, watch what we are around as far as chemicals and anything that can cause harm. We are always thinking safety of the unborn baby. They just don't understand. My hubby is trying to be so supportive. Such as the day I had my doctors apt and the Ob told me I had a Blighted Ovum or Missed Miscarriage. She said it would probably take a week for my body to reject the sac. He felt really bad and he didn't want me to slip into depression or something I guess so he planned for me and him to go to the movies and dinner on Saturday the next day. I really didn't want to be out of the house at that time, I was really upset that day and that was the first time I really let myself cry. So he kept saying come on lets get you out of the house so you wont think about it so much. I felt bad because he had arranged for a baby sitter and everything a rare thing. So I agreed that we would go out I was not bleeding very heavy at all. So we went to the movie and we had a good time we saw mall cops kind of stupid but okay. In the movie my back started hurting and I just thought it was the chair. So we got out of the movie and headed to the cheese cake factory. It was about a 24 min drive so about half way there I start having back contractions and then full on contractions and they don't stop even for a second. I have a pretty high pain tolerance. So I tell him maybe we should go home I would hate for something to happen at the restaurant, I was in a nice dress. So he says well lets see how you feel when we get there. So we get in the parking lot and I really need to go to the bathroom because I am feeling lots of pressure. But I am afraid to walk through the restaurant in case something happens. So I hurry to the bathroom and of course I start passing clots the size of the palm of my hand. Great stuck at the restaurant in the bathroom. Not so perfect timing, exactly why I wanted to stay close to home. So I come out of the bathroom and tell my hubby we should go. He is already sitting down and the waitress is there to take the order. I am afraid to start the drive home because that is about 27 min away and I don't want to be sitting in the car with no bathroom either. So I sit down still contracting and take 4 motrin like the doc said and wait a few minutes. I am feeling a little weak and shaky. I go to the bathroom about 5 more times and pass about 7 more clots in that time. The only good thing was is nothing would come out until I sat on the toilet. So luckily I did not have to worry about a big scene at the restaurant. So we get our food and eat fast. Then we get out of there. We pick up the kids from our friends house and hurry home. I passed clots a little more when we got home. I was telling my husband what was happening and he said I thought that you were just going to bleed like a period for about 1-2 weeks and then it would be over. I guess I should have explained a little more to him about what would actually happen. I just figured he knew because I did. The Ob had said a little about what would happen and I figured he would have got it. Then I was tired and feeling a little weak and feel asleep. The next morning woke up and it started again. For about 2 more hours and then it was over. By Thursday the bleeding stopped and I was feeling a little better. I started working out on Saturday and I think it was to early because I started spotting again. So I will give it a while before I try that again. I am doing a little better emotionally I still get upset sometimes and I think about it daily. I know that time heals all things but I will always remember the baby that will never be in my arms only at heart.
you are pregnant? How wonderful! I recently found out I am pregnant again as well! Take it easy and try not to stress too much, things will most likely go well for you this time. I worried at first too, and had some bleeding early on at 6 wks. I had an ultrasound and saw the baby and it was fine. It was a big relief. Perhaps they could schedule you for an early ultrasound so you can ease your mind.
October 15th
- HopeMamma
on Jan. 18, 2009 at 2:09 PM