Hello everyone,
Im so glad I found this group. I wanted to share my story...
My EDD was Aug. 15 2009 and should of been 10 weeks when I got my bad news )-:
My first appt with my OB was running as normal pap bloodwork all the basic stuff. When He tried to listen for a heartbeat he could not find my OB (who does not have a ultrasound machine) made a appt at a radiologist. I was worried but since I had two healthy pregnancies in the last 3 years I tried to stay positive.
I just had my HCG checked the day before the ultrasound and It doubled from 2500 to 4700 in 48 HR. which was great news and everything seemed very normal. The office called to inform me my dates might be off that's why I could not hear a heartbeat. I was relieved and since my periods are irruglar I thought GREAT! I fully expected to see a baby with a strong heartbeat at my ultrasound appt...
I knew something was wrong when the tech did not turn the ultrasound screen so I can see. She did not say much at the time basically made excuses why the heartbeat was not present and the Doctor would be calling my soon as the film is reviewed. Soon as I left I knew. I called my OB crying asking for answers. The medical assistant said he would be calling right back. The drive home was hard Fiona (my oldest) was really looking forward to seeing her (baby Travis) photos. The hardest part was telling the girls the baby was not growing and it when to heaven )-:
My OB called back confirming what I already knew "I had a blighted ovum or missed miscarriage" and I had two options to go on and wait to pass the baby naturally or a D&C. I picked the D&C, I wish I could of had it right away, waiting a week is torture like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. Am I cramping am I not, I keep checking for blood there is none. Now that my pregnancy symptoms are going away I guess my HCG is dropping and I could happen over the weekend I'm not sure.
It sucks I signed up for all these baby development newsletters to go to my e-mail. I was also in the process of biding on a fetal Doppler on Ebay thankfully I did not win. I treated myself last night to Starbucks, beer and sushi all the pregnancy no no's. I'm so looking forward to Wedensday and moving on from this. One good thing is its unlikely to happen again, and we plan on trying again in 5 or 6 months. This gives me time to try and lose some weight and get healthy (-:
I am so very sorry for your loss. I had a blighted ovum in june of 2007. Luckily, right after the ER had told me that I had a b/o or my dates were wrong (i knew they weren't) I started bleeding heavily and the miscarriage process started. Thankfully I didn't have to wait for anything. We waited a year and tried again this past July, and I got pregnant, I am now 30 weeks along with a baby girl, so there's hope! If you want to talk you can always message me.
I had a blighted ovum at around 8 weeks over labor day last year. One day we saw the flicker of a hearbeat and then my numbers stopped doubling.I picked the natural way to miscarry and it felt like labor event though I wasn't that far along. I finally passed a good size red ball of tissue and mucus. It was one of the darkest days of my life. I agree it was the hardest thing telling my two sons that the baby stopped growing and there is no more baby. It was hard for a six year old and three year old to understand. I remember going for the second ultrasound at the hospital (I'll never do that again) and cried so hard in the waiting room on my husband's shoulder like someone died-someone did die actually inside me! I'm having a rough day today so I turned to this support group in hopes of getting through all of this and talking with people that know how I feel. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. It really is the hardest thing that I have ever been put through. Good Luck and have fun trying. I've just started tracking my cycle in hopes of trying again after our Spring vacation. Keep your chin up and cry when you have to.
I started spotting the day of my ultrasound with the radiologist (the midwife thought maybe their machines or better trained eyes would find something more). I expected that same thing, we told my then two year old that we were going to see pictures of the baby, etc.
I wish you a quick and easy D&C and a quick recovery. It is quite possible that you could start to bleed before you go in too, I know how hard it is just waiting for that day. Even though I didn't schedule my D&C, after the spotting started I was on edge waiting for it to pick up and get going. Of course it had to wait until the weekend to get really bad, so I couldn't just go in to my dr., I had to go to the ER and the dr. on call had to come in.
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I had a bo with my last pregancy. I had spotting then bleeding at 9 weeks and went to the doc. They did blood tests and put me on a progesterone suppliment. All my numbers looked great, just low progesterone. The bleeding stopped and 2 weeks later I got an ultrasound to check things further and the tech looked and said, "there's the gestational sac, it looks about 6 weeks. I was 11 weeks and there could be no mistake about that. I said that was very wrong and she didn't say anything after that except she couldn't see a baby. They checked for a heartbeat and there was nothing. My husband was there, reading a book. He didn't understand that at 11 weeks you definitly should be able to see the baby. And he wasn't worried because he thought I was either wrong on dates or the baby was just too small to see yet. I wanted to get home before I explained things because I knew I was going to just break down and didn't want to do it at the hospital. We met a woman from our church at the door and hubby told her we were having a baby. I barely made it out the door before I just broke down. I told hubby that the baby was dead, thats why they couldn't see it or find a heartbeat. He was very upset but told me that I was overreacting, that the tech didn't say that. I told him that they arent allowed to say much you just have to wait for the doctor. I started spotting again that day and cramping, this was new years eve, and the doc called 2 days later to tell me what I already knew then I miscarried Jan 4. So my baby had been gone since at least 6 weeks pregnant but I didn't miscarry until I was just 12 weeks. I hope you find peace and recover from this soon. I am sorry for your loss.
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope my story gives you some hope...
I got pregnant in May 2008 with my second child. I had morning sickness, but that was about my only symptom. After noticing some spotting in my 11th week (My morning sickness had also ceased after week 8), I immediately called my midwives. They felt my stomach for a uterus, which should have been the size of a grapefruit. I'll never forget them asking if I'd ever had a miscarriage. They said I could get an utlrasound, but were pretty sure that I was going to miscarry. I knew deep down they were right. It was devastating telling family and friends that I was no longer pregnant.
It seemed my body only needed the verification to begin the miscarrying process. I chose to miscarry naturally at homeWithin a few days, I started to miscarry. It lasted about a week, and was emotionally and physically draining. I actually had contractions and "delivered" my placenta, which was pretty much empty. My next menstral cycle was terrible, and I actually had clotting and felt like I was miscarrying again. I saw my midwives, and they provided emotional support. I believe my hormone levels were also unbalanced, as I fell into a depression for months afterward.
The good news...I am currently 7 weeks pregnant and experiencing all the pregnancy symptoms...vomiting, cramping, and all the other "wonderful" symptoms of pregnancy. I was a bit ambivalent at first, and afraid to tell others or attach to my upcoming baby. But I refuse to give in to the negativity. I will always feel I lost a child - even if just a blighted ovum - but am looking forward to the new life growing within me. I must say, I welcome the morning sickness and other discomforts of pregnancy more than before.
I would encourage you to try again when you feel you are ready. I'll keep you in my prayers.
So sorry for your loss....
My EDD was October 21st,2009...I found out I was pregnant in Feb. I went March 10 for an ultrasound and I had started to spot the night before. I was so relieved to have my ultrasound since with my DD I never had one so early at 7 weeks. I get there and they do the internal ultrasound and to my surprise and total shock...there was the black sac on the screen...EMPTY. Empty I ask???? They also said my dates may be off but I was pretty sure I was around 7 weeks or so...the sac measured at 6 weeks. I now am going to start meds soon...to get it all out....or I myself wil be getting the d&c. This is my 2nd m/c...1st and 3rd time pregnant..both ended in a m/c. It is so hard....but I am thankful for my DD even more these days!!
Best of Luck to you!!!!!!
October 15th
- psjmommyof2
on Feb. 8, 2009 at 5:03 PM