how could someone write something so mean

[coltonmommy]

i was just checking myspace and i have this thing on there called what do think about me. and they don't tell you who wrote it... well i was checking it and someone wrote some mean.. Here alittel history I had a m/c in Oct 08 i lost twins... well i had a blighten ovum.. well in 2 wks i would of been having my c-section.. well i'm really sad about it.. i got attached to them from the 1st moment i found out i was pregant.. well i named them because i was reading a book about how to deal with a miscarriage or still birth that said sometimes naming them will help... well i did since i didn't know the sex of the babies i named one Lizzy and one Liam... so anyways here what this person wrote about me... 

 

"you are obsessing over your suppose misscarage way to much when you said there weren't any babies even growing inside the sacks that's called a false pregnancy.
It's clear that God doesn't want you to have any more kids so just quite trying!!!!! "

I'm not obsessing over it i'm just grieving the only way i know how...  No one know how it feels unless you have gone through one too...

 

how could someone write something so mean? I didn't just hurt me it also hurt my husband....

[jemm]

You did NOT experience a false pregnancy. A false pregnancy is where a woman believes completely that she is pregnant, even showing some outward signs of it, but is not at all. Blood and urine tests will show no traces of hCG. An anembryonic pregnancy (blighted ovum) is when an ovum does get fertilized, implants, begins to grow, but doesn't form an embryo (or does and growth is halted before it reaches a size visible on ultrasound, I'm still learning more and more about this.)

So clearly this person is uneducated on top of being completely rude and uncalled for. They cannot spell either. Sometimes people who feel they need to make comments like this have suffered in some way of their own, perhaps having suffered a miscarriage themselves, or even lost a child. I had a falling out with one friend who's son only lived to be 6 weeks. We were due within weeks of each other. I couldn't handle making the 45 minute drive up to see them, and she was so mad at me for never meeting her son, saying I had absolutely no idea what she was going through, even though I had similar feelings of loss right along with her. We have since mended our relationship (and she also has had another child.)

I'd probably take down the thing where people can make anonymous comments. It's just a cover for people who like to stir things up to hide under. I'm really sorry someone had to say such stupid things, but really you just have to let it roll off your shoulders, because honestly they had no idea what they were talking about.

[CampersMama]

I'm so sorry.. that sounds like a very ignorant comment!!!!!!!!! You need to do what is best for you and whatever helps you grieve is nobody else's business!!