still questioning

[MommytoJ]

hi,

im juliet and im 18, i have one healthy almost 6 month old little boy who was born in march of this year, but in march/april of the year prior (2008) i had a blighted ovum m/c. i just googled again today about it and read that "a fertilized egg develops the sac but no embryo" and my question is, how can a FERTILIZED EGG not actually BE a baby? im sorry if this is a touchy question but i just need to know, and also, how do you commemorate your loss if you didnt actually see a 'baby' on the u/s?

thanks!

[melloxyellow]

I have always thought of my b/o as yes a baby was made but never grew big enough to see on an ultrasound. I still have things from the pregnancy such as my preg. confirmation paper i needed to obtain medicaid and certain things i got ie: magazines with a diaper sample and stuff. I kept stuff like that in a shoe box. It's really a hard concept to grasp or explain to people because they think you were never pregnant but in fact a baby was made. you lost a baby. and its hard. im sorry for your loss. I too, have an almost 6 month old now after my m/c in june of 07 

[MayMommy07]

So sorry for your loss. I believe too it was a baby that never grew big enough. I had a miscarriage in Jun 06 and March 09. I am lucky to have my little girl in between two miscarriages (she is now 2)I found out I was pregnant back in Feb of this year and I was due to have my baby this month Oct. 21st was my due date. . I see it as I had 3 pregnancies/babies and will never forget in my mind or heart the two lost!!! It is hard and people who never have gone thru this wouldn't truly understand...Best of Luck to you!! :)