Boost Your Self-Esteem Day 1: Recovery from Low Self-Esteem is Possible
Thank you for joining our 10 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem challenge! We hope you'll gain some valuable tools for improving the way you feel about yourself.
Dr. Marilyn Sorensen will start us off by explaining when our self image is formed and how alter it for the better.
From Dr. Sorensen:
Recovery from Low Self-Esteem is Possible
Self-Esteem (whether healthy self-esteem or low self-esteem) always forms in childhood and is stable by age 10. During this decade, we develop a picture, a belief, a perception of ourselves as: adequate or inadequate, acceptable or unacceptable, lovable or unlovable, worthy or unworthy, competent or incompetent. This self-view becomes the roadmap for our lives. If it is negative, we may be hungry for love and affection, vulnerable to whoever shows an interest. We may settle for less than we could do and not try to better ourselves-it's too big a risk or impossible. Some become people pleasers. Discouragement, depression, and desperation set in marking full blown low self-esteem.
First I emphasize that low self-esteem is not something you did to yourself, but now is, unfortunately something that you can-and must-overcome. Recovery is possible! My program focuses on understanding what you say to yourself and altering each irrational & distorted negative self-statement that is preventing you from living a full, satisfying life.
Write down four negative self-statements. Examine each one, asking yourself: Is it based on FACT, TRUTH, or HISTORY? If it is not based on one of those words, the statement is negatively distorted and irrational. Next, rewrite that statement to make it based on FTH Therapy. Once you've rewritten your statements to make them based on fact truth, or history, put the 4 new statements on a 3 X 5 index card and read those cards 5 times a day, spread out over the day. If you continue to work on this you will gradually replace negatively distorted thinking with rational and truthful thinking.
Thinking is what creates feelings (negative or positive, uplifting or discouraging.) The feelings then propel self-defeating behavior, so you must start with altering the destructive thinking-things that you tell yourself but are distortions.
Marilyn J Sorensen, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, national speaker, founder of The Self-Esteem Institute www.GetEsteem.com, and author of Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem, The Personal Workbook for Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem, Low Self: Misunderstood and Misdiagnosed, The Handbook for Building Healthy Self-Esteem in Children, and Low Self-Esteem in the Bedroom.
Can you relate to Dr. Sorensen's description of low self-esteem? Did you try writing down 4 negative statements, then rewriting them using FTH Therapy?