Boost Your Self-Esteem Day 4: Ditch Your Inner Critic
As moms, I'm sure we can all relate to what Amy Ahlers has to say.
When I became a mom I also became more self-critical. It was as if when I gave birth to my daughter, I also gave birth to a new clan of Inner Critics whose mission was to create a swirl of negative thoughts in my head. I like to call these addictive negative thoughts Big Fat Lies. Here's a couple Big Fat Lies we gotta ditch:
Big Fat Lie: I'm a failure: This Big Fat Lie is pandemic among nearly every mom I've talked to. The truth is that we all have moments of failing as moms but that does NOT make us a failure. Winston Churchill put it brilliantly when he said, "Success is leaping from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." I would add that to be a successful parent, success is leaping from mistake to mistake without loss of compassion. So, why not get your compassion on?!
Big Fat Lie: ___________ is a way better mom than me: The comparison game amongst moms can be intense and grueling. We can feel like we never quite measure up and develop a serious inferiority complex or we can turn the tables and find our Inner Critics telling us that we are a far better mom, creating a superiority complex. Either way, the comparison game is a losing one. The truth is that this isn't a contest...let's instead put our focus on being the best mom we can be.
The more you recognize your negative self-talk as Big Fat Lies and tap more into the compassionate truth, the more you'll increase self-love, self-esteem and self-respect. And what better gift can we give our kids than to model that?
Based on the #1 bestselling book Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves: Ditch Your Inner Critic and Wake Up Your Inner Superstar © 2011 by Amy Ahlers. Printed with permission of New World Library, Novato, CA. www.newworldlibrary.com or 800-972-6657 ext. 52
Amy Ahlers the Wake-Up Call Coach, is on a mission to wake up your Inner Superstar so you can shine bright. She is a celebrated International Certified Success Coach, the CEO of Wake-Up Call Coaching the co-creator of Inner Mean Girl Reform School and the creator of many tele-seminars such as The Women Masters and New Man, New Woman, New Life where she has spoken alongside luminaries such as Marianne Williamson, Neale Donald Walsch, Barbara Marx Hubbard, SARK, Lisa Nichols, and many, many more. She resides in the SF Bay Area, is married to the love of her life, Rob, the proud mom of their 4-year old daughter, Annabella, and loves to hike in the hills with their rescue mutt, Dozer. You can visit her online at www.wakeupcallcoaching.com
What Big Fat Lies does YOUR inner critic like to tell? Can you practice recognizing them for the negative lies they are and start telling yourself the positive truth instead?