But I can't...
Our living situation sucks... I don't like talking about it cause we're trying to get on PA to help us get on our feet. Our roomie's constantly causing problems and he's starting to sexually harass me.
I had issues with my ex.. He verbally and physically abused me so our roommate doing and saying the things he does really makes me have flash backs. And, he thinks it's funny when I have flashbacks.
I'm just so stressed living with him. My SO is trying so hard to work as often as much as Wal Mart will let him but his store doesn't let people get overtime very often. I had depression right after my son was born almost 5 months ago and I was doing good with it being gone but with the roomie pulling all this drama, I'm going right back to that.
So far I am doing good, really good, for not cutting (the last time I cut was a year ago) but sometiimes I'd rather do that then cry. I feel like I don't have any tears to cry. I feel like bottling so much up has pushed me back closer to that hole I thought I filled up...
I'm sorry for unloading here but my SO has so much stress himself and no friends and family ever really talk to me that I just needed to do something...
Can you try to find housing fhrough the local housing authorites in the towns and cities around you? get on every list. IF he does something that gives you a flashback call the cops. I have ptsd and know how that can be.
if you cant cry can you journal and maybe get some of the feelings out? you need to get out of the situation where your roomie is sexually harrassing you. either tell him to go or get your own apt. tell your so about it . you should not have to live that way. if you have to go to a shelter and stay until you get an income based apt. i know you dont want to be away from your so but you cant put up with the harrassment. good luck!
cry away. i wish i could cry and get relief from anx dep
hugs! vent as much as you need to! why the heck would your roommate think it's funny to cause you to have flashbacks? and why is your so allowing that? keep trying for PA I hope you can get out of there soon!
Your roomie sounds like an insensitive idiotic jerk. He also sounds like a threat to you and your child. Threats and shouting won't make him go away or stop what he's doing. Action will. Take action. Up his rent and make him sign a contract for it. Call 911 when he makes advances to you. Don't make excuses for his behavior - he's an adult now and needs to be treated as such. Don't argue or fuss - take action. Tell your SO what he's doing. If SO can't do anything about it, then it's up to you to protect you and your child. Take control and let him know that you're not going to put up with his shit either verbally or physically.
You can do this. You are strong enough not to cut yourself for a year (I'm so very proud of you for this!!!!). Cry it all out and when you've stopped crying, take charge and mean it.
Can your SO find another job that will allow for overtime? I know WM can be pretty stingy about OT and benefits. Hope things work out for both of you!
We can try but the two local towns (my hometown and another 20 minutes away) have a waiting list of 3 years. He wants to stay here in town since our car is unreliable at best and the other town he can't get on at that store because there's no open positions. He's been looking for a second job and I've even applied at some but a lot of them, once they see I have a baby or see my hours I can work instantly balk.
As for the cops, we're trying to avoid it as much as possible because all 3 of us live with his mom to help her since she had cancer. I've tried to talk to her about it but she's just blown it off.
Quoting matreshka:Can you try to find housing fhrough the local housing authorites in the towns and cities around you? get on every list. IF he does something that gives you a flashback call the cops. I have ptsd and know how that can be.
I've tried journaling. I do whenever it gets bad. We're trying to get the housing authority to move faster with our section 8. We all live with the roomie's mom. I've tried talking to her about the issue (so she could sit down and talk to him) but she flat out said that she doesn't believe her son could be like that.
There's only one local shelter the next town over. It's for abused women. I've talked to them again and they said the same thing they told me two years ago with my ex. I can only stay there if I press charges against my SO. We live in a small town and the nearest shelters are an hour away.
Quoting lyrick24:if you cant cry can you journal and maybe get some of the feelings out? you need to get out of the situation where your roomie is sexually harrassing you. either tell him to go or get your own apt. tell your so about it . you should not have to live that way. if you have to go to a shelter and stay until you get an income based apt. i know you dont want to be away from your so but you cant put up with the harrassment. good luck!
When we first lived with him in a different apartment he wasn't ever like this. When all of us moved in with his mom to help her (she had cancer and needed help to continue to live in her house) and after we moved in, it gradually started getting worse.
My SO and him have butted heads before about it and he's getting to the point of beating his face in. I'm worried that if they both become phsyically violent that me and my SO and our infant son are out on the streets. This paycheck we could afford to go live in an hotel but the rest might be sketchy.
Quoting leahbeah143:hugs! vent as much as you need to! why the heck would your roommate think it's funny to cause you to have flashbacks? and why is your so allowing that? keep trying for PA I hope you can get out of there soon!
I dont even know if I should be worrying just yet!!! But I am...
- raye-chan
on Jun. 8, 2012 at 6:47 AM