OK well I have been depressed for a while now. It really got worse since I have moved back SC.
Now I don't get along with my mother in-law at all. She is just not a nice person. She has told my husband that it was stupid of him marry a girl from the north (so 1862 ) and the bad thing is that my husband is a mama's boy. So we lived in SC the first 8 years of us being together. Hated my job and his family did not welcome me at all. I had two kids between my 8 and 4 year old I had 6 miscarriages and gained over 119lbs. I did not have any family anywhere near, so that did not help. The relationship between me and started to go down hill. Since I really wanted to leave SC we agreed to move to FL. I loved FL I went to school there and loved everything about it so he agreed to move. So I transferred my job and husband was to get a new job before we went I went ahead three months before he did since I had to go with my job and the kids was still in school so he stayed with then until it was out. He had me under the impression that he was looking for a job and had one in the works. So when he moved down it was not true about the job. It took him 3 months to find a job so I was working over time to take care of everything. Then he did find a job it was going fine. Then he lost that after two month but he got another one in about a week so I was not mad. He was working and lost that job about 5 months later. Now while he started the second job he agreed that I could cut back my hours to go to part time so I can finish school. My job would not allow me to go back to full time.
Since we could not make it we had to move back to SC but the bad thing is that I have to move in with the in-laws. Soon as I got here my depression set in worse. We only have one car and now that my husband works he drives our car to work and my in-laws will not allow me to drive their car not even to get food for my kids I have to wait until my husband get home from working a 12 shift. My mother in-law does not allow me to cook on her stove so I have to cook in a slow cooker and a toaster oven. I have all our clothes in two rooms that my husband and I can not use the closets or dressers. My husband and I are fighting more because I tell him about his mom. So I stay in the room and just look at four walls. My in-lawslive in the country the closes Wal-mart is about 40 minutes aways and the only houses on the road are my husband family. So we got into a big fight the other day and he told me that he did not want to be married any more. So where to go from here now. I am in a place that I don't have a family nor do I have the money to get back home. Now I am in a place that I really don't want to be nor am i wanted. I hate everything right now I am always in the room. I hate looking at my husband more and more each day. I want to fight my mother in-law. Her voice makes my head hurt. The other day I just wanted to walk away from the house but I do have two kids to think about.
I hate feeling this way like I just want to walk away with out my kids. That is not me.
Thanks for reading
If I were you I would call the police station and tell them you need to be taken with your kids to the nearest Domestic Abuse shelter.Not being allowed to use a stove to cook for your kids on a stove is abusive,when you suffer from depression ..what they are doing to you is emotional abuse.The shelter can help you get in touch with your family and hopefully they can get you back home where you are all safe and wanted .Please let me know what happens.
Can you get your old job back in Florida? Your SO sounds like a total wuss and very selfish and selfcentered
hugs! I'd get out of there. Not feeling comfortable where you are is very stressful!
I totally agree with this.
Quoting mamakin616:If I were you I would call the police station and tell them you need to be taken with your kids to the nearest Domestic Abuse shelter.Not being allowed to use a stove to cook for your kids on a stove is abusive,when you suffer from depression ..what they are doing to you is emotional abuse.The shelter can help you get in touch with your family and hopefully they can get you back home where you are all safe and wanted .Please let me know what happens.
Well thanks for all the post. I can not get my old job back until October I have to be away for a year before I could even try to go back, but I still don't have any money. Well today with my husband got home he and his mother got into. He told her to keep her thoughts to herself and stop being a bitch towards me. When I heard that i was very surprised. She stormed into her room and called her oldest son who is marriedshe treats her wife the same way. The oldest called him. They got into also. My husband said he was sorry for acting like a jerk but he still does not want to be married but he would pay for me to move into an apartment so that I can finish school. Right now I really don't know what to think. I know that he will keep his job because the job that he is at is the same company that he was at before we moved to FL and he was with them for 11 years. I feel good that tonight he finally stood up for me after 9 years of being together but I feel bad that him and his brother are not talking. I know him once he says he is done with someone he is really done. We will see how this helps me with my depression that I have been in for the last few years
how do I learn to be patient?
- Iamalwaysme
on Jun. 25, 2012 at 2:31 PM