Video Games

[mikala76]

Ackkkk! I hate them. Okay, some of you know me. I have an 18 year old, who just graduated from highschool. He didn't officially graduate due to missing one math class. He says he's starting it online tomorrow. Other than that, and some pot smoking, he's a really good kid. His brother on the other hand is a difrerent story. He'll be 13 next month, and sucks in school. He was d/x ADD and bipolar when he was younger, so that explains some behavior issues. But, I can't help feel like it's my fault. With all of the depression, hospital stays, and ect. He does nothing but play video games. I try to reach out to him by suggesting taking the dogs for walks, going to the beach, or helping me volunteer at my friend's horse ranch. He adamently tells me no. When inforce something he just screams at me. He even cuts himself. I have this addictions so it broke my heart when I saw it. I know I need to be stronger, and stand up to him, but I just cant. I just want peace.My older son already has a job, has a girlfriend of four years, and bmxs in his spare time. The younger one has no hobbies, no friends, and is barely passing school. I don't know what to do. I'm so sad.

[ashleighmama]

My 13 yr old son is ADHD and he is ADDICTED to his xbox and the computer. It makes me crazy! He does take his little bro to the school park usually everyday to shoot hoops but thats usually cuz I tell him to. If it were up to him hed stay in pjs all day and just be on the games. I feel bad cuz it seems like such a lonely existence but it he seems fine. It does make me crazy though!

[mikala76]

Quoting ashleighmama:

My 13 yr old son is ADHD and he is ADDICTED to his xbox and the computer. It makes me crazy! He does take his little bro to the school park usually everyday to shoot hoops but thats usually cuz I tell him to. If it were up to him hed stay in pjs all day and just be on the games. I feel bad cuz it seems like such a lonely existence but it he seems fine. It does make me crazy though!

Yes it's quite infuriating. He's only happy when he's playing games. The pdoc says it has to deal with his mental illnesses. Like a reward system. I know for my 18 year old he does chores if asked. The other one has to be paid... sigh.

[matreshka]

Its not your fault he has these dx's. But i understand the thought because i worry about my kids getting sick with mental illness.

I was a mess when I was dx bipolar at 14. Do you think he needs a change in Dr or therapist?

[mikala76]

Quoting matreshka:

Its not your fault he has these dx's. But i understand the thought because i worry about my kids getting sick with mental illness.

I was a mess when I was dx bipolar at 14. Do you think he needs a change in Dr or therapist?

He doesn't see a therapist anymore. I think I'm going to find one and make an appt. asap.

[mrsvixen]

I totally agree!!! I HATE HATE HATE them! The lost one I played was Mario Brothers! My 25 year old DS is a total hermit with no social skills. He's 350 lbs, and spends ALL of this time on the video games.

As hard as it is, you need to nip it in the bud! It can and is addicting....it has taken over my ds's life. Part of the problem with my ex too was video games. They get into it, and that's all they care about!!!

Heck I'd get rid of the games/systems!

[mikala76]

Quoting mrsvixen:

I totally agree!!! I HATE HATE HATE them! The lost one I played was Mario Brothers! My 25 year old DS is a total hermit with no social skills. He's 350 lbs, and spends ALL of this time on the video games.

As hard as it is, you need to nip it in the bud! It can and is addicting....it has taken over my ds's life. Part of the problem with my ex too was video games. They get into it, and that's all they care about!!!

Heck I'd get rid of the games/systems!

I've tried taken them away, but God it's like I'm some horrible person , and then I cave. I feel like I'm not strong enough emotionally to deal with that whole scenerio. Instead of just taking it away I'm only goint to allow ir on weekends. He starts school next week, and last school year he got into trouble with school for never doint his homework. He'd always lie and say he had none. Then I would get phone calls from his teachers asking where his homework was. I felt like I an idiot. Of course, after the phone calls he always got mad at me. He knows how manipulate me. The only one he listens to is his brother.

[GreenOlives07]

 Dont feel like and idiot, you cant help it he lies to you and dont let him turn things around and make you feel bad after hes the one who should be in trouble... stand your ground your super momma and what you say goes... your the boss not him. it suxs but at his age your always gonna be the bad guy... and its only because u love him and someday he will appreciate that. Stay STRONG remember who runs the house whos the adult and who follows whos rules. you don like the games... get rid of em its your house 

[mikala76]

Quoting GreenOlives07:

 Dont feel like and idiot, you cant help it he lies to you and dont let him turn things around and make you feel bad after hes the one who should be in trouble... stand your ground your super momma and what you say goes... your the boss not him. it suxs but at his age your always gonna be the bad guy... and its only because u love him and someday he will appreciate that. Stay STRONG remember who runs the house whos the adult and who follows whos rules. you don like the games... get rid of em its your house 

So very true